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Why Positive Thinking Doesn't Always Work

I often hear "think positive and everything will work out." We may tell ourselves to think positive and say lots of positive affirmations and yes, sometimes this positive attitude does in fact create an energy that will bring us to the next right place. However, if we are not in tune with what our …

Self-help

18 Valuable Lessons From Pursuing the Wrong Career Path

There is a saying which goes, "That which is in front of you is your teacher."<p>You can learn a lesson from anything and everything life throws your way. And if you view life this way, you've always won. You're always receiving gifts.<p>That's how I see my years spent pursuing a career path that didn't …

Letting Go of Shame

The concept of shame is familiar to all of us. We know what we mean by it, but find it a bit tricky to describe. It's not exactly guilt or embarrassment, nor is it shyness or modesty.<p>I've formulated my own simple definition of shame as follows: "The unwillingness or inability to accept our …

Guess What? You're Not Supposed to Have It All Figured Out by Now!

Do you ever feel like you should be more experienced, further along or more on top of things in your life? That you should have an amazing career, the perfect husband and a clear sense of who you are and where you're supposed to be? Worse, that you should already be there by now?<p><b>It's time for a</b> …

Positive Thinking

What Is Confidence, Really?

Do you ever wonder what it is about some people that makes them so confident? So completely comfortable in their skin and radiating such positive, charismatic energy? I used to wonder this too. And then I learned that confidence really comes down to one <i>incredibly simple</i> thing.<p><b>Owning it.</b><p>When you're …

Positive Thinking

Getting Into the Optimistic Flow: How to Move Past Setbacks and Have What You Want

We all experience feeling let down when we don't achieve something that we want. We might have wrongly thought that it would be easy to achieve our goal and think that we are a failure for not reaching it, or maybe we put in a lot of hard work and it didn't work out. Whether it's a failed …

Why Pinpointing the Cause of a Low Mood Is Never the Answer

Imagine these two scenarios:<p>1. Meg is in a bad mood. Meg looks for something to blame it on. Meg's mood gets worse.<p>2. Meg is in a bad mood. Meg doesn't look for something to blame. Meg's mood improves.<p>Indeed, the first scenario is what most of us do -- way too often. When we feel insecure, anxious, …

23 Signs You're Secretly An Introvert

Think you can spot an introvert in a crowd? Think again. Although the stereotypical introvert may be the one at the party who’s hanging out alone by the food table fiddling with an iPhone, the “social butterfly” can just as easily have an introverted personality.<p>“Spotting the introvert can be …

The Science Of Conquering Your Fears -- And Living A More Courageous Life

Aristotle believed courage to be the most important quality in a man. “Courage is the first of human virtues because it makes all others possible," he wrote. Today, it's one of the more neglected areas of positive psychology, but recent research has begun to move toward an understanding of what …

8 Secrets of Undesired Singlehood

Clearly, some people are single because they choose to be. They are simply not interested in being in a serious relationship at this time in their life. Others are single due to the circumstances of their lives. They may have just gotten out of a meaningful relationship or have dated relentlessly …

Why Trying to Be Perfect Won't Help You Achieve Your Goals (And What Will)

We all have goals that are important to us. But is it our drive to achieve a certain outcome that makes us better? Or something else entirely?<p>In the book <i>Art & Fear</i>, authors David Bayles and Ted Orland share a surprising story about a ceramics teacher. This story just might reframe the way you think …

Ceramics

4 Things That Make the Difference Between Surviving and Thriving

<b>What makes the difference between people who get knocked down by life and stay down, and those who get back up?</b><p>In his book <i>The Resiliency Advantage</i>, Al Siebert wrote that:<p>... highly resilient people are flexible, adapt to new circumstances quickly, and thrive in constant change. Most important, they …

4 Obstacles to Fulfilling Your Dream

Whether we are embarking on a new life change or want to discover our life's dream, we will all face obstacles along the way. Paulo Coelho's book, <i>The Alchemist</i> is a fable about a shepherd boy in search of dreams. It is about the incredible adventures and challenges he faces along the way. <i>The</i> …

10 Habits Of Highly Creative People

Writers' block? Go take a nap.<p>Composer Erik Satie walked roughly 10 kilometers from Arcueil to Paris every morning. Saul Bellow rode his mountain bike. Novelist Haruki Murakami keeps a famously intense running schedule, which he described in the <i>Paris Review</i>:<p><b>Whether it lets the mind wander, improves</b> …

How to Change Your Beliefs and Stick to Your Goals for Good

In one of my very first articles, I discussed a concept called identity-based habits.<p>The basic idea is that the beliefs you have about yourself can drive your long-term behavior. Maybe you can trick yourself into going to the gym or eating healthy once or twice, but if you don't shift your …

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It Is Sweet to Do Nothing

I used to dream of a non-stop life, a successful life that was crammed to bursting with deadlines, dates, demands, and duties so ceaseless and important I'd barely have time to think. This frantic existence, I imagined, would make me feel like someone who mattered, a person with a big life -- going …

Divorce

Reject Rejection

One of the key elements of living a <i>meaningful</i> life, or as we call it, The OPA! Way life, is learning to be resilient. And one of the key elements of being resilient, as well as of building resilience, is knowing how to deal with rejection.<p>Rejection is becoming more and more a part of our everyday …

10 Maya Angelou Quotes That'll Make You Love Life and Get Sh*t Done

Inspiration straight from a legend<p>Maya Angelou, the renowned poet and author, passed away this morning at age 86. Celebrate her life and honor her legacy with these 10 motivational quotes—they're guaranteed to stir up feelings of determination, pride, and compassion.<p>"Success is liking yourself, …

Be Seen, Loved, Appreciated and Valued for Who You Really Are

For the majority of my life I felt like people didn't see me.<p>When I was younger and in school, it was feeling like I had no real friends (I really only had a few sporadically), like people were always more "into" or interested in everyone else, or like no one cared about really knowing me deeply, …

How to Let Go of a Dream

Sometimes when things seem to be falling apart, our life is actually falling into place. Learning the art of letting go is one of the toughest challenges, but the most rewarding when achieved.<p>When it comes to dreams, letting go can sometimes feel like giving up.<p>But sometimes, a fulfilling life …

Positive Thinking

7 Truths to Remember as You Live Out Your Dream

Image Credit: joycefler/Pixabay<p><i>"I have a dream."</i><p>Those words echo from every human soul.<p>Big or small, our dreams are launched with a swell of excitement. But after bursting from the starting blocks, it doesn't take long to realise you're running a marathon and not a sprint.<p>Indeed it's a journey of a …

4 Motivating TED Talks to Help You Bounce Back From Failure

Opinions expressed by <i>Entrepreneur</i> contributors are their own.<p>We’ve all heard the preachy platitude “Failure isn’t an option.” And, generally speaking, it’s not. At least not an option most would purposely choose. But failing is inevitable. Everyone eats humble pie in some way at some point, …

Motivation