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Pic sent by Tirumalai Vasan. MOST IMPORTANT FOR TODAY’s YOUTH: After coming to devotion, I hate material relationships. I don’t like marriage and getting children. Kindly show me right path. COUNSELLING: A Girl devotee who requested anonymity asked like this: “Hare krishna Prabhu m a 25yrs girl...Prabhu m getting married soon..with time i've started believing everything arnd is just MAYA.. now i dont want to get married...i dnt want to get into any materialistic relationships...also i dnt want to have baby after marriage.. i dnt want to make the baby suffer like me in this sinful world,so i dnt want a baby. Prabhu is it right to think that way??? Or iz a sinful thought??? kindly show me the right path. I hve started with Hare Krishna mahamantra recently...whenever i sing the mantra i weep also when i attend d arati , i weep..i get so attached..even m not concerned who's looking and who's not . ..not only this, whenever i read Bhagavad Gita most of the time my eyes gets wet. Prabhu, why this happens to me???anything wrong with me??? kindly dont dusclose my name” REPLY: As even I had to suffer in my own life hearing the insufficient and partial preachings of preachers who did not explain what detachment actually is, I like to give a very practical reply for this as I have all qualifications and experience to speak about this.. This is the mistake many devotees do after coming to Krishna Consciousness. Earlier, They were somehow having some hope in their life. But, after coming to K.C, they start to hate everything around them. Though K.C means “Detachment with material world and also attachment with Krishna”, most of you have understood detachment wrongly. The preachers in temples must realise that they are making changes in the minds of audience and their words should not spoil their life set up. So, they must explain what ‘actually’ detachment is. If they stop just by saying “detach from material life” the audience will start to lead an uninterested life hating others. This is dangerous and spoiling the life of audience. They should not just stop with speaking about Bhagavad Gita, Bhagavatham, etc, but, should speak about some practical problems faced by every devotee. This is the problem with some preachers. If they preach, they should preach all the aspects. Otherwise, they should not touch such sensitive topics. If the preaching is incomplete, many people understand the concept only half of it and lose interest in life. So, let me try to tell you how to act with detachment: Detachment does not always mean skipping people and go away. It also means that being with people, but, doing the duties JUST AS ASSIGNED DUTY, not with expectations of appreciations and returns. It also mean being physically with people and doing service to krishna. Krishna is the best example for detachment as said by Srila Prabhupada. Many atheists say that Krishna enjoyed all the wives. But, they saw Krishna like ordinary man and hence say so. The reality is that Krishna never received any enjoyments from anyone, as all pleasures are coming from Him. From Canto-10 of Srimad Bhagavatham, we learn that He lived as a grahastha with 16, 108 wives. He took care of His children. He helped His wives. He behaved like a normal householder. But, throughout His presence in the life with His wives, Krishna was never attached with them. He gave them the opportunity to serve Him as they wished. He remained like water on lotus leaf. He did not find any pleasure in His wives. He did every act as a duty as a husband. Not for sense gratification. Because, Krishna is the reservoir of pleasure. So, He does not need any pleasure from outside. So, Just because Krishna is detached, He did not hate girl devotees and he satisfied their wishes also. Krishna Himself married and led Grahastha life when He came to earth. You are aware that almost all the deities in all temples are shown with wives only. Even the demigods and celestials are seen with wives. Even the Supreme Personality of Godhead, Krishna did not hate girls. Even Lord Shiva, who is the great controller of senses, has His wife. If this is the reality, why should you hate marriage? I have been writing since the beginning of this page that some devotees become negative minded after coming to K.C. This is due to incomplete preaching or incomplete hearing. This is a dangerous trend. Remember, some people may speak of skipping grahastha life because they need hands to help them. I have seen may boys and girls who after hearing some preachings, skip marriage in their twenties 'speaking dialogues'. But, many of them have struggled with disturbances of senses and disturbance of the society in their day to day life. So, they decide to marry in their middle or late thirtees, or even forties. They find it difficult to get a right groom/ bride after their age of above 35. So, They struggle throughout their life. So, I advise you to stop speaking dialogues like maya, bogus, etc. If you establish Krishna in your heart and perform K.C saadhanas seriously, you can keep maya away even in grahastha life. Please answer my following 12 questions if you decide to skip your marriage, hearing the insufficient preachings of some devotees: 1. If you remain helpless financially or physically, will those who advised you to skip marriage come and help you at all times?. 2. Will they help you in your last period of life? Will you get a place to live conveniently? 3. Will they take care of you if you become unmoveable in life? Will they clean your stool and urine on bed? 4. Will they remain your permanent associates throughout yr life time? Will they be with you even when you live on bed for 20-30 years? 5. Have you seen any devotee staying in the same temple for very long period except a few? If any misunderstanding comes between you and the temple authorities, who will protect you? 6. Will they give assistance if you need some major treatment that involves lakhs of rupees? 7. You serve them without salary free of cost. Will they keep you in their care even when that temple becomes financially insufficient? 8. If they convey their inability to take care of you when you are above 50-60, , what will you do to survive in this world? 9. If any temple devotee engages you and utilises ur services for some time and they get another better one and hence send u out beause of budget constraints, what will u do? What is the guarentee that they will keep u till the end? 10. In what guarentee, you skip marriage? Are you thinking that this life is a joke? Remember, life is a serious one. Don’t play with the life casually. 11. If everyone stops marrying, how this earth will function? What will u do if your senses disturb u in your thirtees or forties? 12. Why Krishna created equal number of 350 crores of girls and 350 crores of boys in this earth? To live separately like orphans? No. He expects us to live a decent grahastha life, get children, develop them as His devotees and thereby creating a good , Krishna Conscious generation. So, don’t hear such incomplete preachings and don’t skip marriage trusting that they will protect you till your last period of life. They will just preach, not come with you when you are in distress when you suffer in later part of life. You only have to take care of you. So, you need some people as relatives. if you come out of this relative circle, no one will be there to help you. No one will be with you when you leave this world, atleast to give a glass of water. The world is very selfish. If you have a son or daughter, atleast they will give a glass of water atleast with murmurs. So, don’t play with life. Remember, even the temples will give you care only if you donate something. If the spritual organisation you are associating with, gives you a written guarentee that they will take care of your welfare throughout your life, skip marriage. If not , marry a boy immediately. In fact, no one from outside world will take care of you in life. Only your sons and daughters and other relatives will do though they don’t like it. Atleast they will admit you in a old age home and pay for it. So, I request you: Don’t believe this selfish world and waste your life. Marry a devotee boy , involve in Krishna Consciousness along with your husband seriously. Don’t expect anything from your spouse, but, do everything based on mutual needs. Take only prasadam, Chant more, follow regulative principles and associate with vaishnavas. DO ALL THE HELPS TO THE TEMPLES & DEVOTEES BY BEING A GRAHASTHA AND DOING SOME JOB/ BUSINESS FOR YOUR EARNING. Lead your grahastha life without attachments, but as a duty and as a social order. Get children, but, compulsorily develop them as devotees of Lord and also as materially good educated persons. Let them earn and also involve in Krishna Consciousnes. This life will be meaningful. As there is a husband, the chances of erring in life is very less as all arrangements for sense protections are there within marriage life. Of course, there are some pressures and problems in marriage life as two people of different backgrounds have to live together. But, its benefits outweigh its problems. There are many problems in Sanyasa life also in this kaliyuga, because, they have to depend on grahasthas only for their needs. So, marry a boy and lead a materially detached, but Krishna Conscious life. NOTE: Only if you are 100% determinded that you will never involve in sense agitations in future, you must skip marriage life. Do you have that determination? Can you predict your future changes now itself? Your next question. You cry on seeing arati because you love Krishna much. That is good. Don’t worry about it. It is natural for sincere devotees when they involve much in the darshan of Lord. Be vigilant in life and don’t be innocent and don't trust anyone blindly. Evaluate and then believe. Be wise and practical. All the best.
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