“Why didn’t they teach us this in class?” No matter where you went to school, your sex education curriculum probably didn’t address the things that you most desperately needed to know about your sexual life. We’re here to fill in the gaps.
The first time I had a go at an orgasm, I tried to plan for everything. Music? Check. Unrealistic erotic content? Check. Privacy? I mean, as much privacy as a young teen could get in her childhood bedroom so…kinda check? Fingers ready, I went for it and as my desire to succeed crescendoed, I …
Last time, relationship therapist Moraya Seeger DeGeare, LMFT, helped one reader who was struggling to commit to their partner due to communication and intimacy issues. Today, we hear from someone who fantasizes about people other than their partner during sex and isn't so sure if they should feel …
Brianna used to feel like she needed to overcompensate for not experiencing sexual attraction. Until her early 20s, the supermarket manager would go along with friends in conversation and agree that she thought someone was hot or that she was interested in having sex with them. Then in 2012, she …
Scent and romance have always been intrinsically connected. If you think back to the first person you ever had a crush on, it’s likely that you remember their aroma (Lynx Africa crew, I see you). The idea that smell and attraction are entangled makes sense when you remember that fresh roses, …
"I find the idea of one hot man appealing, so I consequently find the idea of two hot men appealing, too," wrote anonymous user Dark Twin in her 2004 attempt at explaining why she, a straight woman, enjoys slash fiction. "But when these two men start getting hot together, my enjoyment of the …
The first time Kara* had an orgasm, she blacked out. “It took me to another dimension,” she tells Refinery29. She was in her first year at university and had just started hooking up with her current partner when it happened. While she’s had plenty of incredible orgasms since, that first one just …
My first group sex experience in 2016 was arguably the best timed event in the world: Not only was it my first threesome but it was also my debut into queer sex and it happened on London Pride, which coincided with my birthday. It doesn’t get much better than that. It was spontaneous, sweaty and …
The first time Azia Mery, 25, tried to have penetrative sex seven years ago, she went from feeling nervous to absolutely terrified. Her boyfriend at the time tried to calm her down as they sat naked in his dorm room. “When he had at least a bit of his penis in, my whole body rejected it,” she tells …
