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I Had an Emotional Affair with a Man Half My Age—And It Saved My Marriage

She was 44, he was 22.<p>It's New Year's Eve and glitter sprinkles the space between my brow and lids. I have two teen boys at home and I'm retiring from a 22-year marriage with their father. I've never glittered in my life. Hell, I haven't worn makeup since I was a teenager!<p>And I'm staring into his …

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My Husband and I Had Sex Every Day for a Year—Here's How We're Doing Now

It didn't make our relationship divorce-proof, but it did make me more confident.<p>Three years ago I had sex every single day, for one whole year.<p>To answer the most popular questions I've been asked since: No, it was not with 365 men. It was with one, my husband. Yes, even while I was on my period. I …

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A Cocktail That Lives in the Space Between Summer and Fall

A drink perfect for hot days and slightly cooler nights.<p>Temperatures inside and outside the office have started to approach equilibrium. You’ve started packing a sweater “just in case.” Bottles of rosé are getting pushed to the back of the fridge as almost-imperceptible whiffs of pumpkin-spice …

The Missionary's Downfall Cocktail

<i>Fresh mint enlivens this Tiki “smoothie”</i><p>Want to join the green smoothie craze, but can't stand the taste? Have we got a drink for you!<p>Smoothies have …

How to Respond to Loneliness in Marriage

<i>by guest blogger Pam Fullerton, psychotherapist and writer</i><p>In my last article, I touched upon loneliness in marriage. When I married my husband as a young person of 28, I never thought that I would experience feelings of loneliness. The truth is, that feeling of loneliness is one of the utmost …

The 21st Century’s 100 greatest films

The best that cinema has had to offer since 2000 as picked by 177 film critics from around the world.<p>“They don’t make ‘em like they used to.”<p>How often have we all heard that resigned expression? How often have we said it ourselves? ‘The death of cinema’ is debated in university film studies …

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Best Nigerian Blog

The following day, Ayo came back to the house so early and went straight to his room where he met his wife and son sleeping. Ayo: Adaobi! Adaobi! He …

Is a sexless marriage a reason to divorce?

If you are in a sexless marriage, the question of whether to leave your marriage may have presented itself to you once or twice.<p>Society may suggest …

Rachel's Coconut Horchata Recipe

"A creamy ice cold horchata that is simple to make. Serve chilled over ice."<p>Ingredients<p>8 1/2 cups skim milk, divided<p>2 cups uncooked white rice<p>2 …

Understanding Repeated, Massive, Complex Sexual Deception

There Are Several Causes of Repeated Infidelity. Counseling Addresses Them All.<p>Studies suggest that about 20% of men and 15% of women will be …

3 Ways to Tell If You’re in an Unhealthy Relationship

<b>“The harder you fight to hold onto specific assumptions, the more likely there’s gold in letting them go.” ~John Seely Brown</b><p>It was Christmas night …

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Marriages Fail When Couples Get Stuck In These Two Things, According To Psychologists

Marriage is one of the most discussed relationship dynamics in the modern age. According to recent research featured in the New York Times, it is one …

5 Potentially Fatal Factors For A Marriage

HuffPost recently asked me to comment for a piece called "8 Signs A Marriage Won't Last." The one I gave them became number two on their list. But it got me thinking and I thought of a few more that I now share:<p>1. Sex (the lack of it-this is the one from the HuffPost article mentioned above).<p>This …

This Cocktail Was Once as Popular as the Martini. Then It Disappeared.

In the cocktail renaissance of the last decade, many classics have been exhumed, polished, and updated for modern palates. Some have taken hold and …

Menopause Wreaked Havoc on My Marriage and Sex Life

No one warned me that I would be at odds with my own body.<p>I had just celebrated my 26th wedding anniversary when the first hot flash hit. It didn't …

Suze: The French Apéritif Your Cocktail Is Missing

Will Elliott of Maison Premiere Explains Suze<p>What is Suze?<p>Suze is a French apéritif made from gentian—an aromatic plant used as a bittering agent in a whole slew of French digestifs. It <b>tastes very vegetal, like eating dandelion greens,</b> but it <b>also offers citric tones, like pomelo and perfume-y …

The Story of Us: Why Some Couples Last And Others Fail

Every relationship is bounded in the pages of stories. The chapter when John was late for date night, embarrassing you as you sat alone in a romantic restaurant by yourself. Or the countless nights your wife puts on her "no sex" sweatpants to tell you she's off limits.<p>Our lives and our …

How to Make the Perfect Bloody Mary

It's brunch season, and you can't have a proper brunch without one.<p>For a traditional Blood Mary, you're always going to have Worcestershire, lemon juice, salt, pepper, celery, tomato juice, horseradish—probably tabasco. But if you're feeling adventurous, it's a drink that can benefit from a little …

7 Signs You're The Real Problem In Your Relationship

Your spouse has 99 problems and one of them is you.<p>When things start to go south in a relationship, it's easy to place the blame squarely on your partner's shoulders. But chances are, you're not completely blameless.<p>Below, experts share seven signs <i>you're</i> the problem in your relationship -- and how …

Entwining punishment with love

<i>Hi, Carolyn: My wife and I have fought over whether I should be giving her open access to my personal email. I’ve had this account for at least twice as long as I’ve known her (going back 20-ish years) and we had a kind of cat-and-mouse type of situation where she would try to trick me into giving</i> …

Why you shouldn’t hide your emotions from your spouse

People who hide their emotions from theirs husband or wife tend to find that they become less satisfied with their marriage over time – as do their spouses.<p>A new study by researchers at the University of Genoa looked at 229 recently married heterosexual Italian couples. Both husbands’ and wives’ …

The Essential Guide to Woodinville's Wine Tasting Rooms

Washington is a powerhouse of grape growth, and the state's wine industry is booming. But since most vineyards are way out east, farther than most will travel for a good drink, wineries have set up satellite outposts, congregating particularly in Woodinville, a short jaunt northeast of …

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Four Ways Psychological Rigidity Hurts Relationships

Psychological flexibility is fundamental to healthy living, so it’s not surprising that within the context of romantic relationships, flexibility is …

50 Iconic Films and Their Color Palettes

These hues really tie the movies together.<p>Color sets the mood of a film. Recognizing the power of the palette, Twitter user Cinema Palettes (CP) has been mapping out the hues of some of the most iconic films. "The palettes are created entirely in Adobe Photoshop with no extra tools/websites …

Drink This: The cocktail that's never leaving the menu at CH Distillery

CH Distillery bar director Azrhiel Frost tells me that she can dream up a cocktail to suit any taste or whim, but I really wouldn't know. Every time I go to this West Loop bar and distillery, I order the same thing: the Cease and Desist ($11). Each sip is an onslaught of smoky, spicy and bright …

24 Things You Need to Do to Heal Your Life From Anxiety

1. The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety, it's connection. The same is true for anxiety. Anxiety is being disconnected from the present moment, other people, or yourself. Usually all three. You must reconnect with your life.<p>2. You must give yourself permission to want what you really want. There …

It Only Takes One to Have a Happy Marriage

Defense is the first act of war. When people used to say, "Katie, you don't listen," I would immediately bristle and respond, "Of course I listen! How dare you say that! Who do you think you are? I listen!" I didn't realize that I was the one making war by defending myself. And I was the one who …

Avocado Margaritas

At the time this post goes live, I will be soaking up the sunshine and kickin’ back with my girlfriends on our weekend trip back to the Land Where I …