In the movies, couples have sex and then immediately roll over and go to sleep. In the real world, there's a post-coitus ritual that every dude must perform, but few talk about: the washing of the dick.
Menopause blindsided author Darcey Steinke. The hot flashes and insomnia were uncomfortable. The depression was debilitating. And the cultural expectations — that postmenopausal women are no longer interested