VITAL LIFELONG ALIGNMENT JOURNAL

By Michael Hartley CFP® | A collection of articles curated by vitallifelongalignment.com that can show people how to live the life they really want...not just the one they think they can have.

This life skill is more vital to your happiness than any other

Here’s a harsh life truth that you’ll never hear in your formative years — there is a very high probability you will not discover what you truly want …

Motivation

The neuroscience of pessimism: Why some people always focus on the negative

Are you a glass half full or a glass half empty kind of person? Some people seem to inherently focus on the negative when faced with a …

Neuroscience

A Stanford University psychologist’s elegant three-step method for creating new habits

If you hate the monotony of running on the treadmill, but drag yourself to the cardio room daily, believing self-torture will eventually become a habit—that’s not heroic; it’s bad design.<p>According to B.J. Fogg, a psychologist and researcher at Stanford University who has studied behavior change for …

Stanford University

Yale’s beloved happiness class is now on the internet for free

Happiness, they say, is infectious. Perhaps that is why the most popular course ever to be taught at Yale University—this semester enrolling 1,200 students, or a quarter of the undergraduate student body—is one titled “Psychology and the Good Life.”<p>PSYC 157, or “Laurie Santos’ happiness class” as …

Happiness

These Three Little Words Are Making You a Negative Person—and You Probably Say Them All the Time

<i>Photo: GaudiLab/Shutterstock</i><p>Here's something that'll make you think twice: "The majority of American conversations are characterized by a complaint," …

Cleveland Clinic

7 principles to develop toughness and build the life you want to live

“Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. …

Self-improvement

The Simple but Effective Way to Stop Worrying So Much (It Sounds Ridiculous, But It Actually Works)

Science shows you can contain your worries to 30 minutes each day.<p>"I just can't shut off my brain. I worry so much I can't pay attention to what I'm doing." I hear comments like this in my therapy office on a daily basis. Whether you're constantly worried about money or you just can't stop …

Self-help

Want To Live a Better Life? Use These 8 Life Lessons To Build Your Personal Philosophy

Discover your personal philosophy and then build your life around it.<p>Following a morning hike among the serenity of red rocks, wildflowers, and mountain views, I sat in conversation with an old friend. We had an important topic to discuss. Mainly, my future career.<p>My friend knows that I'm a …

Happiness

5 things positive people never do

I make an effort to surround myself with positive people. Positive thinking is a cornerstone of mental toughness because positivity creates a mindset …

Happiness

Want to Radically Improve Your Life? Ask Yourself 3 Powerful Questions Most of Us Have Never Thought of

Research found that the average person has about 60,000 thoughts per day. The bad news? 80 percent of those thoughts are negative and fear-based. Here are three questions to instantly curtail a negative mind.<p>If you're going through the ups and downs of life, maybe thinking about quitting on that …

The neuroscience of change: How to train your brain to create better habits

“The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken.” — Samuel Johnson<p>A lot of our daily actions are automatic. Your …

How to Flunk Retirement and Thrive

A former marketing executive loves his unlikely third act as a prison-education reformer.<p>Jim Farrin has been saying since at least 2001 that he …

Stanford University

Harnessing Your Habits Superpower

The latest research says these 3 concepts will make or break your goals.<p>When it comes to building your business, hiring, sales, mentors and culture get a lot of attention. These are great, but as anyone who has built a successful business will tell you, they are almost impossible to hone on a daily …

4 Useless Negative Emotions That You Should Get Rid of If You Want to Be Happy and Successful

Not giving in to these feelings can make all the difference.<p>Sometimes the emotions and bad mental habits that you set aside have more to do with your success than the things you do. At least, that's how it was for my stepfather, one of the great role models of my life.<p>William Allen Brobston passed …

Great Depression

How Aristotle is the perfect happiness guru

Happiness is not a state as far as Aristotle is concerned, it’s an activity, says Professor Edith Hall, and you just have to decide to become happier<p>You’ve got the Headspace app, know your downward dog from your black dog, and once read something by Freud, so what can a guy who lived 23 centuries …

Happiness

The secret to loving your life

Sometimes life sucks. Bad. Really bad. And you feel like you want a refund.<p>But, of course, we need to accept that Life Avenue is going to have its …

Self-help

How well you age depends on what you think of old age

At 85, Claude Copin, a retired French welder, may have discovered the secret to living a long, healthy life. She stays active by playing a pétanque …

This 95-Year Stanford Study Reveals 1 Secret to Living a Longer, More Fulfilling Life

This decades-long study shows that living an easy, stress-free life won't make you happier -- and definitely won't help you live longer.<p>What will make you happy? What will make you feel fulfilled? What will help you live a longer, healthier life?<p>Good questions.<p>Enter Lewis Terman with an …

Happiness

Here Are the Personal Mission Statements of Musk, Branson, and Oprah (Plus 7 Questions to Write Your Own)

Your heroes know that a personal mission statement can clarify goals and guide decision making.<p>You know why your business needs a mission statement--writing one clarifies your value and purpose, and having one helps to both communicate that information to others and guide day-to-day decision …

Oprah Winfrey

How Will You Measure Your Life?

• <b>Author:</b> Clayton M. Christensen and Others<p>From the world’s leading thinker on innovation and New York Times bestselling author of The Innovator’s Dilemma, Clayton M. Christensen, comes an unconventional book of inspiration and wisdom for achieving a fulfilling life. Christensen’s The Innovator’s …

Frailty is not inevitable in old age for those with a healthy heart, scientists find

Frailty is not inevitable in old age, scientists believe after, finding that people with a healthy heart do not succumb to weakness in later life.<p>New research has shown that older people with very low risk of heart disease also have very little frailty, raising the possibility it is preventable.<p>The …

How Strenuous Exercise Affects Our Immune System

If you have ever run a marathon, you know that the effort can cause elation, exhaustion, achy legs, blackened toenails and an overwhelming urge to eat.<p>But it is unlikely to have made you vulnerable to colds or other illnesses afterward, according to a myth-busting new review of the latest science …

Laura Carstensen: Older people are happier

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Isabel Allende: How to live passionately—no matter your age

Jane Fonda: Life's third act

Science proves that happiness begins at 50

With all the reasons for Americans to feel worried, it’s fun to imagine an alternative reality, one in which beneficent aliens descend from the sky …

Planning For The Future? Here's What's More Important Than Money

<b>Planning For A Sound Financial Future 101</b><br>In theory, planning for a sound financial future is simple – it’s just about working through the numbers to get you from point A to point B. Unfortunately, most people get caught up with life and do not take the time to plan for the future – as a result, …

Yale Is Letting Anyone Take Its Most Popular Class Ever for Free

Everything you ever wanted to know about how to truly be happy.<p>When Yale began offering a new course this semester, over 1,000 students jumped at the opportunity. It wasn't about business, technology or innovation. It's about how to be happy.<p>Nearly a fourth of the undergraduate student body …

Learning