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  13 hours ago

  Miss Manners: They stormed off and forgot the cooler. How long do I have to keep it?

  The Mercury News - Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

  DEAR MISS MANNERS: How long does one need to keep something that is left behind at your house and ensure it’s in the same condition when returned? For …

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  Sep 12

  Miss Manners: What am I allowed to say about a stranger’s hair?

  The Mercury News - Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

  DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is it rude to compliment a complete stranger on their hair — for instance, its texture, color or styling? I sometimes come across …

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  2 days ago

  Miss Manners: My husband doesn’t understand why I was so mad at his friend

  The Mercury News - Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

  DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I invited four couples to be our guests for dinner at one of the nicer restaurants in town. I wanted to use proper …

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  Sep 7

  Miss Manners: Did I deserve this treatment for being a few minutes late?

  The Mercury News - Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

  DEAR MISS MANNERS: My friend and I traveled out of town to attend an event. The event started at 2 p.m., and we agreed to meet at her home at 11 a.m. …

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  Sep 7

  Miss Manners: If I’m in the aisle seat, do I have any say over the window blind?

  The Mercury News - Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

  DEAR MISS MANNERS: When I fly, I choose the aisle seat because I don’t want to feel “hemmed in,” as I do in the window and middle seats. But …

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  Sep 7

  Miss Manners: She claimed she was just kidding. How do I express my displeasure?

  The Mercury News - Judith Martin, Nicholas Ivor Martin and Jacobina Martin

  DEAR MISS MANNERS: Is there a proper reaction to people who brutally insult or criticize you but immediately follow it up with “just kidding”? My …