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It Happened To Me: I Was Slut Shamed In My Wedding Dress

I was never the little girl who dreamed about having a wedding. A child of multiple divorces, I found the whole concept ridiculous -- and anyway, my X-Men toys were much more interesting. So it came as quite a surprise to me when, at 25, I found myself planning my own Big Day. I was most shocked at …

Weddings

IT HAPPENED TO ME: Cancer Made Me Ugly, And I Couldn't Be Happier About It

If you saw me out shopping on, say, Christmas Eve, 2012, you’d have spotted a petite girl with long brown hair, thick eyelashes and probably a chipping manicure. In all respects, the girl you’d see would be anonymous – just another white girl in leggings and an infinity scarf trying to find the …

Christmas Eve

Hard Out Here for a White Feminist

<i>by Julianne Escobedo Shepherd</i><p>British singer Lily Allen has released “Hard Out Here,” her first single since 2009, and the accompanying video is quite …

Step Away from the Texts: Why Rebound Relationships Mess You Up

My mother hated the kind of women who needed a man around, and so I grew up not to be that kind of woman. I’m stubbornly self-directed and …

Why I Love Being Shy And Why People Need To Stop Shaming Introverts

When I visited my friend Dan at UCLA a couple years ago, I ran into a guy I knew from high school. We had a couple of classes together and I might have sat near or next to him during one of those classes. He was barely an acquaintance -- just someone I knew of.<p>“Oh, hey,” I said when I saw …

Personality

I'm Tired Of Falling For The Wrong Friends

When it comes to romantic relationships, I’ve been very, very lucky. My boyfriend and I met when we were young and have been together for almost 10 years. Besides one breakup/get back together cycle in college (I told him I needed to go “sow my wild oats” but just spent six months crying and …

Relationships

20 Things Every Girl Dating In Her 20s Should Know

Last week, the viral hub Buzzfeed ran 27 Things Every Girl In Her Twenties Should Really Have By Now, a listicle that pretty much reduced women in …

How Not To Be A Dick To A Virgin

I think of myself as a pretty normal 27 year old woman. I have a job, I have friends, have a great relationship with my folks, I am trying to write the next great American novel (with very little success, I might add), and I’m more obsessed with my dog than I thought I would be when I got her.<p>Okay, …

Relationships

The Day Skinny Found My Daughter

“Mommy, aren’t I skinny?!”<p>I may have gasped. Skinny -- it’s stronger than you might think. It knocked the wind right out of me.<p>Within seconds I was …

20 Things I Will Not Regret Doing With My Children

1. Tucking them into bed at night. Someday they'll be too big and I won't get that moment back. Saying good night, pulling up the covers, and kissing …

My Eating Disorder Helped Save My Family

I’m a thirty year old woman who at one point in her twenties lived in an apartment with absolutely no furniture. Just over two miles from the house I grew up in. I had an eggcrate mattress pad, a few sheets and pillows, and my laptop which I used mainly as a DVD player. I borrowed the DVDs from the …

Mental Health

DO THIS DON'T: Ask A Stranger On A Date (On Twitter, Even)

I am blowing exactly no one’s mind by stating that the never-ending hangover of gender norms make hetero dating a little sticky. Who pays?* Who drives? Who is expected to plant the first kiss? But even getting to the point of “on a date” can get hung up in one big, really outdated factor: That …

Relationships

"Dating Down" -- Do You Need Your Partner To Be As Smart As You?

I've come to the belief that the "soul mate" model isn't realistic or even necessary when looking for a partner. If you believe you’ve found one, I’m very happy for you, but I’m not seeking someone “perfect,” because I think that goal sets people up for a world of disappointment.<p>I don’t expect my …

Relationships

Steal From Yourself: How to Improve Your Life By Drawing Upon Your Best Resource

When I worked for this hilariously overblown Internet company called marchFIRST in 2000, we used the word "repurposing" a lot. Repurposing content. Repurposing ideas. Repurposing strategy.<p>It was a fancy way of saying, "You don't have to reinvent the wheel" for everything you're doing. Find what …

Time I

The Selfie Made Me Hate Myself

I don't know about you, but I am horrible at taking a selfie. Really. For me, they never come out flattering. I always appear desperate. I second-guess whenever I post it. And, I look ten times worse then I do in real life (at least I hope I don't look like that in real life).<p>It all started when I …

Mobile Photography
Photo Manipulation

Training the World: On Little Girls And Body Image

I maintain something of a bi-cameral approach with regard to writing about my children: I write about them, but I don’t use their names (their last name is different to mine, which helps); I write about them, but I write only happy things, or uplifting things, or things that are far in the past. …

Parenting

Two Writers With Control Issues Talk About Money

<i>by Jessica Gross and Jillian Steinhauer</i><p><i>We are writers in our late twenties, we have control issues, and money is our psychological pawn.</i><p><b>Jessica:</b> So …

Why Women's Oppression Is The Moral Dilemma Of Our Time - Sheryl WuDunn Speaks Out

Last month, I had the honor of speaking with Sheryl WuDunn, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist, author, and investment banker. Co-author of the national bestselling book <i>Half the Sky: Turning Oppression Into Opportunity for Women Worldwide</i> with her husband, New York Times columnist Nicholas Kristof, …

Review: Rapsody, 'She Got Game'

A young rapper from North Carolina, Rapsodydoesn't want to be labeled or limited as a woman in hip-hop; she wants you to know that she's as good as any of her male peers — and better than quite a few of them. With her newest project, <i>She Got Game</i>, Rapsody is in her own lane, one that skirts music …

Song Premiere: The Avett Brothers, 'Another Is Waiting'

It hasn't even been 11 full months since The Avett Brothers released <i>The Carpenter</i>, the North Carolina band's most recent collection of poignant and infectious, bluegrass-inflected folk-rock. And, given the lengthy touring cycle that each major album release generally spawns — the Avetts just …

Of Ingenuity And Insane Clown Posse: 5 Books On Music For What's Left Of Summer

It's already August 8, which means you've got maybe three or four weeks left to complain about preseason football, inadequately shield yourself from the scorching heat of the sun, and communicate with your kids about something other than why they haven't done their homework. So why not get cracking …

The Good Listener: How Do You Break Into Music Journalism?

We get a lot of mail at NPR Music, and amid the heavily taped packages that can't be opened without the aid of a utility knife and a blowtorch is a slew of smart questions about how music fits into our lives. This week: an array of tips for anyone hoping to launch and sustain a career in music …

Jim James, Live In Concert: Newport Folk 2013

Jim James has spent his career singing big, booming songs that echo into the sky. With My Morning Jacket, he specializes in letting his gigantic voice ring out past the rafters in songs that boom and blare. But on his first solo album under his own name, this year's <i>Regions of Light and Sound of …

Albums

Inside Listening: The Mountain Goats' Bassist On His Own Band's Albums

I don't know about other bands, but I can say with some confidence that in The Mountain Goats we don't spend a lot of time listening to our own records. This wasn't always true in my case: for the first decade or so that John Darnielle was performing his spare, arresting, enigmatic story-songs …

Shout Out Louds On World Cafe

After working together for more than a decade, the members of Stockholm's Shout Out Louds continue to make lush, highly melodic pop music. The product of a year and a half of tinkering, their recent <i>Optica</i> is significantly lighter-sounding than its predecessors.<p>On this installment of <i>World Cafe</i>, hear …