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Love and the Single Girl

Modern love can be summed up in one quick status update: It's complicated. In the final edition of a three-part series, we explore life on the front lines of singledom. For more insight, read these essays on love and race and love and money.<p>Putting themselves first and a wedding ring second, a new …

The Honeymoon Is(n't) Over

How one writer makes room for sex in her schedule — every single day.<p>Recently I was having lunch with two married friends when the subject of sex came up, specifically an analysis of vibrators.<p>"I don't use one," I said.<p>"But without a sex toy, how do you get off?" one asked, with unblinking …

Why I Don't Want Guys to Go Down on Me

It's supposed to be the ultimate pleasure for women—so what's my problem?<p>Recently, I was in bed with a guy whose sheets I'd wanted to get tangled up in for a while. It was our third date, but I was hoping for a thousand more, and we were having the kind of intense and passionate sex that makes you …

Letting Him Go

When the guy Alysia Abbott had fallen in love with told her that he wanted to try again with his ex, she did what any strong, smitten woman would do: She said okay.<p>When I bumped into Jeff at a friend's birthday party, I noticed how he went out of his way to introduce himself, and how, later, his …

The Happy Hookup: Friends with Benefits

Who needs "friends with benefits"? Real women know how to reap the benefits of casual sex the old-fashioned way—"taking a lover".<p>I've never been one for "friends with benefits." I know the concept works for a lot of women, but to me it suggests resignation: getting it on with a dude who's only …

Single with Siggy: Caught in the Friend Zone

This month, our love guru Siggy Flicker advises New Yorker Maddy Bloch, a fashion buyer too often caught in the 'friend zone.'<p><b>THE PROBLEM</b>: Being seen as "just one of the guys."<p><b>MADDY, 23:</b> Ever since I graduated from college, I've noticed a pattern with men: I reveal a lot about myself early on. It's …

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Single with Siggy: A Four Step Guide to Turning a Friend into a Boyfriend

This month, our love guru Siggy Flicker offers a step-by-step guide for those too often caught in the 'friend zone'.<p>Getty<p>From Carey Mulligan and Marcus Mumford, to Mila Kunis and Ashton Kutcher, some of Hollywood's most notable couples started out first as friends. But taking a friendship to the …

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Well, This Is Alarming: Americans Prefer Morning Coffee to Morning Sex

Perhaps it's time we reevaluate the convenience of our Starbucks Gold Cards. In a recent study of 7,455 people conducted by Le Meridien Hotels & Resorts, about 53-percent of frequent travelers (more than half of whom were women) stated they prefer a cup of coffee over morning sex. Well, this report …

16 Sex Toys So Pretty They Don't Look Like Sex Toys

Like, can-leave-out-in-front-of-houseguests-and-not-be-embarrassed pretty.<p>Because no one (looking at you, airport security) really needs to know, here are 16 ultra-discreet vibrators and sex-ccessories so chic that no one would ever guess what they really are.

The Secrets Men Keep

MC's male dating blogger, Rich Santos, reveals what men really think about sex, dating, relationships, and you.<p><i>MC</i>'s male dating blogger, Rich Santos, reveals what men really think about sex, dating, relationships, and you. Plus, get more great dating advice!

Do Men Care if Women Wear Makeup?

Women are waiting to take it all off, but do men even pay attention?<p>jennaxftw/tumblr<p>jennaxftw/tumblr<p><i>Photo credit: jennaxftw.tumblr.com</i><p>According to a recent study featured in the Daily Mail, women wait an average of four weeks before going makeup-free in new relationships. Even more, most …

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16 Sex Toys So Pretty They Don't Look Like Sex Toys

Like, can-leave-out-in-front-of-houseguests-and-not-be-embarrassed pretty.<p>Because no one (looking at you, airport security) really needs to know, here are 16 ultra-discreet vibrators and sex-ccessories so chic that no one would ever guess what they really are.

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A New Kind of Threesome

For Love or Money?

Julia Scheeres wanted a provider, but she fell in love with a man who earned way less than she hoped and drove a beat-up pickup. The sex was great, but how much was true love worth?<p>AT THE BERKELEY CAFÉ WHERE WE MET, Tim leaned on the table, his T-shirt riding up over his curved biceps. I've always …

How to Get a Boyfriend via Lazy Girl's Guide

Because having a boyfriend is cool, trying hard is not.<p>It's hard out there for a badass single girl. We're busy! We have big jobs and very little time, so our dating lives can be somewhat nonexistent. Don't worry though, we've got you covered with five effortless steps to bagging that hottie with a …

Single with Siggy: When You Can't Find Your Type

Romance guru Siggy Flicker advises Carly Harris, a personal trainer who's not sure if New York City—and its men—are right for her.<p><b>The Problem:</b> Not finding "your type" in your city.<p><b>Carly, 31:</b> My hours affect my dating life. I start training at 6 a.m., and I'm done around 8 or 9 p.m. It's hard to go …

21 Problems Only Single Women Understand

Yes, being single is awesome most of the time. But remember that time you saw Evil Dead and then hung out on your stoop watching an old Hispanic woman knit for an hour just so you didn't have to go into your empty apartment alone and potentially fight a demon? This post originally appeared on …

25 Signs He's Cheating On You

If you think your guy is pulling some shady shit, chances are he is. Trust your gut — but when in doubt, see if he's indulging in any of these shenanigans. This post originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com.<p><b>1. He tells you he isn't really ready for a relationship early on.</b> Yet he continues to talk …

15 Reasons You Should Hang Up Your Booty Call

It was fun, but now it's time to ditch your friend with benefits.<p>Photobucket<p>You've had him riding on the bench for years, and he only sees any game play when you're on a losing streak. He's nothing special, doesn't make you feel great about yourself, and it's possible that his presence in your life …

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The 10 Most Annoying Things Married People Do On Facebook

We get it, you're married. This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com.<p>Universal<p>In less than nine months, I'll be a newlywed. And because major milestones, like marriage, can cause people (okay, me) to get a little cray-cray with the social media, I asked my friends and fellow …

24 Stages Of 'True Love,' As Written By Second Graders

This is sadly an unfinished epic, but there's still lots to learn. This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com.<p>@ted_scheinman / Twitter via TheAwl<p>Courtesy of Matthew Malady at <i>The Awl</i>, the story behind this self-help-book-made-from-a-napkin masterpiece. Two girls in a second grade classroom …

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Back in the Game

An early marriage took Dina Nayeri off the romance market for all of her 20s. One divorce and 12 years later, she entered the dating scene—clueless.<p>ABOUT A YEAR AND A HALF AGO, in our sunny canal-side apartment in Amsterdam, my ex-husband, Philip, and I shared a plate of Dutch cookies as he wrote …

Ooooh, Ahhhh: The History of the Condom

From the amorous name "love sock," the perplexing term "jimmy hat," to the always creative "dick-sock," the condom has been around for ages. Here is a brief history of our favorite penis protector.<p>Courtesy of Getty<p><b>1. Ancient Sheaths, 1,000 B.C.</b><p>Aside from the "pulling out" and rhythm methods, the …

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How to Actually Be Friends With Your Ex

It might be complicated but it's possible.<p>Nina Dobrev and Ian Somerhalder won "best chemistry" at Wednesday's People's Choice Awards. Which, as they pointed out in their acceptance speech, may be most interesting because they used to date in real life. But now they don't. But their characters still …

Single Girl's Guide: How to Travel The World

Camille Willemain used to be scared to have a meal by herself. Now she spends her days globe-trotting. Single Girl's Guide To: Flying Solo | Building Your Own House | Climbing Mount Kilimanjaro | Driving Cross Country | Meditating for a Month | Starting Over | Spending, Splurging, & Saving<p>At 24 I …

Single Girl's Guide: How to Start Over

Hoping for a drastic change, Sophie Schulte-Hillen relocated 4,000 miles away. Single Girl's Guide To: Flying Solo | Traveling the World | Building Your Own House | Climbing Mount Kilimanjaro | Driving Cross Country | Meditating for a Month | Spending, Splurging, & Saving<p>After more than 15 years in …

What Does It Cost to be Single These Days?

Blowing that hard-earned paycheck on shoes and cocktails? Saving for a down payment? Best part of being single: The money—and the decisions—are yours. Single Girl's Guide To: Flying Solo | Traveling the World | Building Your Own House | Climbing Mount Kilimanjaro | Driving Cross Country | …

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When Do Guys Expect Sex?

When do guys expect sex (duh, all the time) and what does a guy think if you sleep with him on the first, second, third…tenth date?<p>There is only one hard and fast rule when it comes to finally having sex with your crush: do it when you're comfortable. We expect nothing more, nothing less. Despite …

No Place Like Home: What Single Women's Bedrooms Look Like All Over the World

Marie Claire photographed single women around the world—from a hipster in China to a hip-hop aficionado in Greece—in their bedrooms. See how their private spaces reflect their personal style and passions. Photographs by River Boom.<p><b>Beijing, China</b><p>Kay, 23, lives in Gulou, a neighborhood that still …

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