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Why Integrity Is So Vital to Our Fulfillment in Life

Of all the character qualities we may seek to develop, integrity is by far the most difficult one to achieve. To achieve integrity, we know we have to change in ways we are often not ready to or motivated to change.<p>This is tragic, because it is essentially being penny wise and pound foolish. By …

People Need People

I'm around people all day: listening to them, talking with them and working with them. Most days, people are great, but at the end of some days, I have to admit, a desert island sounds really good. Of course, that desire for aloneness doesn't last long. I'm a professional counselor, after all, and …

Journaling for Your Health

Keeping a journal is like carrying on a conversation with yourself -- or with your higher self, if you prefer. As such, it is a commitment to spiritual practice. It is also a meditative process, and like all meditative exercises it requires some discipline. But rather than thinking of this as the …

5 Ways Exercise Impacts Your Brain

Now you really have zero excuse to skip your workout<p>You know that exercise helps you stay fit and toned and can help you slim down. But that's soooo not the only reason to hit the gym—it's also hugely helpful for your psyche. We rounded up the top ways that it helps your brain, not just your</b> …

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The Easiest Way to Meditate

I worked recently with a client who said he hated to meditate, and it hit me: have we been making meditation too difficult?<p>To meditate is simply to focus the mind or to think deeply. Meditation can be the intentional letting go of all thoughts or the purposeful attention on a thought, like a prayer …

How Limiting Beliefs Can Stop Shaping Your Thinking

When the student is ready the teacher appears. As clichéd as that is, archery, my own personal yoga for type-A people practice, constantly creates a life lesson classroom for me.<p>This weekend was a lesson in trust. I have spent the last four months completing an almost Zen exercise in shooting three …

Is Social Media Actually Making Us More Social?

No question that social media has revolutionized communication. As a result, are becoming more knowledgeable, more direct, and in a lot of ways, more diversified. But what is going to happen to real, human experiences and interactions in the years to come?<p>Social media has significantly changed the …

More Bad News for Older Dads: Higher Risk of Kids With Mental Illness

For so long, mothers – particularly older moms — bore the brunt of responsibility for genetic disorders in their children. And for good reason. Eggs …

How to Lose the Woman You Love... for Good

"Love is the greatest refreshment in life." -- Pablo Picasso<p>Picasso's artistic style changed over periods of time that could be marked by the phases of his heart. His blue/green period arrived after the suicidal death of his friend Carlos Casagemas, while his rose period gave birth along with his …

Yogic Breathing: The Physiology of Pranayama

<i>By Angela Wilson, MA, RYT</i><p>Feelings come and go like clouds in a windy sky. Conscious breathing is my anchor.-- Thich Nhat Hạnh, <i>Stepping into Freedom: Rules of Monastic Practice for Novices</i><p>Yogic breathing is a fundamental practice in the study of yoga. As one of the limbs of Patanjali's eight-limbed …

Mindfulness: 5 Practical Methods for Your Daily Life

Mindfulness implies balance, focus and living in the moment. We often associate mindfulness with meditation and dedicated practice. It is even better if it can become a habit and a continuos process.<p>I have found the most challenging part of mindfulness trying to carry over the benefits of practice …

5 Signs You're Settling For Less Than You Deserve In A Relationship

<i>By Terry Gaspard for DivorcedMoms.com</i><p>Are you in a romantic relationship or marriage that’s just not right but you’re not willing to risk ending it? Maybe you’ve convinced yourself that things will change or you’ve done something wrong to deserve less than optimal treatment. Or your fear of being …

7 Things You Shouldn't Say To Someone With Anxiety

If you’ve ever suffered from severe anxiety, you’re probably overly familiar with the control it can have over your life. And you’re not alone -- it affects approximately 40 million adult Americans per year.<p>Anxiety and panic disorders can cause ceaseless feelings of fear and uncertainty -- and with …

What Your Earwax Says About You

A new study suggests earwax is not the same between races, with some people having more odor-causing chemical compounds in their earwax than others.<p>The number of volatile organic compounds, which are molecules that often produce a smell, is generally higher in Caucasians than in East Asians, found …

How To Be A Better Communicator With Your Partner

February is the month of love. One of the best ways we can be loving partners is to be better communicators with each other. But sometimes it's not that easy. Whether you've been together one year or 50 years, bad communication habits can develop and become ingrained.<p>Does this sound familiar? …

30 Ways To Be A More Compassionate Spouse

<i>By Rick Clemons for YourTango.com</i><p>Flowers, candy, and back rubs are all great gifts to give to your partner, but if you don't bring the compassion into play, you're only doing half of the job!<p>But what does compassion really mean? Don't go running to Dictionary.com -- I want you to think about what …

Renaming 'Mental Illness' to 'Brain Disorder' Will Not Erase the Stigma

Recently, I was giving a talk on mental illness to a group of teachers. One of the teachers in the back raised her hand and asked why I was using the term, "mental illness," rather than "brain disorder." In fact, she seemed quite perturbed by the fact that I wasn't calling bipolar disorder a brain …

20 Surefire Ways to Embrace Your Single Self, Even if You Are in a Relationship

Whether you are single or in a romantic relationship, embracing yourself is essential for lasting happiness. Learning how to keep the romance alive in your relationships is about connecting with your authentic self. When is the last time you said, "I love you," to yourself? Adding more love into …

Stop Saying the Word 'Should'

"To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are." -Sven Goran Eriksson<p>How many times a day do you use the word "should" in reference to yourself or other people? I don't know about you, but I used to use it a lot.<p>The word "should" has become a fixture in our everyday dialogue. We use …

Life is Now

I started to uncover the secret to true happiness and inner peace, late one busy Sunday afternoon. I was working on a project with a Monday morning deadline when suddenly an inclination to check my email struck me. I have a standing ban on email and Internet surfing while working. However, faint …

The Spirituality of Losing Control

My wife and I were scheduled to fly out of Dulles International Airport on the morning of Feb. 13. Our destination was California and the Presidents Day Renaissance Weekend, sometimes called "the granddaddy of ideas festivals." The program looked excellent, and after a cold winter in the DC area we …

10 Tips on Good Parenting

Parenting involves a certain amount of discretion. There is no one standard rule for all children. Different children may need different levels of attention, expressions of love, and toughness. Suppose I was standing in a coconut garden and you asked me, "How much water per plant?" I would say, "At …

The Faithful Shopper: Spring Vacation

Are you as done with winter as I am? I've never seen our friends and neighbors in more need of a spring break in the sun! While it may be cold and snowy outdoors, our city's shops are all about spring and resorts, so visit a few of the following to prepare for a quick vacation, or pretend you</b> …

The Story Behind One Of The Most Romantic Traditions Of All Time

Think the two dozen roses your co-worker got delivered to her desk this morning are impressive? That's nothing compared to the gesture made by the chief mistress of Louis XV, Madame de Pompadour.<p>According to legend, the "highly cultured" lover of ceramics put beds of rose petals everywhere to shame …

Deepak Chopra's Timeless You

"The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes." This famous quote by Marcel Proust can easily be dismissed as a quirky thought, or one can view it as a piece of wisdom. I choose the latter. The lens through which we see our world impacts our thoughts, our …

How to End Your Affair With Perfectionism Without Sliding Off the Edge of the Universe

Perfectionism seduces you into a life of ho-hum mediocrity, stunting your creative spirit. Perfectionism lulls you into a coma of the gray sameness of everyone else. Perfectionism lures you into the myth of <i>If everything is perfect... then things won't go South... he won't leave... the children</i> …

Copenhagen Sketch

Copenhagen. Royal Library of Denmark. The paradox of a monarchy, a real one, scrupulously attached to its etiquette and protocol, as I had the chance to observe at a gala last night at the French embassy, but one that is also, and without any contradiction, one of the most egalitarian societies …

5 Secrets To Behavior Change

<i>By Art Markman, Ph.D. for YouBeauty.com</i><p>At some point in your life, you have probably made a New Year's resolution. Maybe it was this year, and you set a goal to live your life differently in some way, big or small. You might already have abandoned your plans. Perhaps you have given up making …

The Attitude Adjustment You Can Make Today That Could Help You Live Longer

Being your own biggest fan could pay off for your longevity, according to a new study.<p>Researchers from the University of Rochester, the German Institute for Economic Research and Brandeis University found that people who are more self-determined and feel more in control of their lives are also more …

14 Mantras for Mindful Living in 2014

Mindfulness is a state of being. Mindfulness can be described in two simple words: pay attention. By paying attention, we are present in the current moment. Often the biggest challenge is, how can we carry this state of mindfulness into our daily lives? Mindfulness is a part of mindful living. One …