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How To Improve Your Relationships With Effective Communication Skills

Conflict in a relationship is virtually inevitable. In itself, conflict isn’t a problem; how it’s handled, however, can bring people together or tear …

How to Tell if Someone Is Lying and 8 More Conversation Tips

The staring contest lasted 14 seconds before Amanda de Cadenet, best known for interviewing bold women with boldfaced names, broke the silence with “I can’t take it anymore!” She was delivering instruction in an interview technique: It is sometimes important to keep quiet, and even to stare down …

Issa Rae

Why Speaking Centers At Universities Are So Important

If you are reading this, chances are that you have no idea what a speaking center is. They are not very common unfortunately, but they provide a …

The Police Need to Understand Autism

Diane Craglow was caring for a 14-year-old autistic boy named Connor Leibel in Buckeye, Ariz., one day in July. They took a walk to one of his favorite places, a park in an upscale community called Verrado. She was not hesitant to leave Connor alone for a few minutes while she booked a piano lesson …

Relationship Problems? Try Getting More Sleep

It started as a simple conversation about a child’s birthday party. But it quickly escalated into a full-blown marital rift. She accused him of neglecting the family. He said she was yelling.<p><i>“Whatever,” she said. “Go. Go.”</i><i>“Go where?” he replied.</i><i>“I don’t know,” she told him. “I don’t want to talk to</i> …

7 Reasons Why Internal Communications Is More Important Than Ever in 2017

How You’ll Want to Respond to Bad Feedback (and How You Actually Should)

Getting negative feedback is never fun. As you’re getting it, you usually want to crawl into a hole and never come out.<p>And after you leave that room? …

Be Nice: Why Courtesy and Kindness Give You a Competitive Advantage

3 compelling reasons to work and play well with others<p>We live in a rough, rude times. From anger in the oval office, to road rage, to pundits shouting on TV, to companies where a toxic culture is not only condoned but promoted, it seems that meanness has become the nasty norm.<p>That's why I'd like to …

The Three Things Real Leaders Always Do

Of all the things that separate real leaders from mere administrators, three stand out:<p><b>The soliciting of honest appraisals from subordinates</b><p><b>The understanding that truth is the lifeblood of a well-run organization</b><p><b>The tolerance and encouragement of genuine criticism</b><p>Anyone who has worked for a large …

Leadership

How to Work with a Bad Listener

It’s a challenge to work with people — peers, junior colleagues, or even bosses — who just don’t listen. Whether your colleagues interrupt you, ramble on, seem distracted, or are always waiting for their turn to talk, the impact is the same: You don’t feel heard, and the chances for …

Management

Stress Leads to Bad Decisions. Here’s How to Avoid Them

A senior sales executive I’ll call Daniela was frustrated. She’d been working on delegating more to her team. To her dismay, many were struggling to take on the levels of freedom she’d offered — even though they’d asked for more responsibility. Exasperated, she vented to me, “I thought delegating …

Leadership

A Simple Way to Be More Assertive (Without Being Pushy)

In the workplace, we all run into conflict. Many of us would love to speak up and assert ourselves to correct it. And, in a perfect world, it would be easy. You could finally tell that colleague who keeps interrupting you exactly how you feel. You could give him a piece of your mind, releasing the …

Leadership

Why Everyone Should See Themselves as a Leader

<b>Sue Ashford,</b> a professor at the University of Michigan’s Ross School of Business, breaks down her decades of research on leadership—who achieves it, and how a group grants it. She explains that the world isn’t divided into leaders and followers. Instead, it’s a state that everyone can reach, …

Leadership

Stress doesn't have to be a killer — here's how to use it to your advantage

Brad Stulberg, coauthor of "Peak Performance: Elevate Your Game, Avoid Burnout, and Thrive with the New Science of Success," explains how looking at stressful situations as challenges rather than threats can help you perform better. Following is a transcript of the video.<p><i>So stress, in a very</i> …

Anxiety

Let Your Favorite Podcast Hosts Fix Your Public Speaking Problems

Podcast hosts from NPR, WNYC Studios, and more explain why they let themselves say “like” and “um” as much as they want.<p>You’re a grownup with a job, plenty of good ideas, and expertise. That’s why you find yourself presenting to a roomful of your coworkers, or possibly to an auditorium packed with …

Five Approaches to Help You Defuse Conflict on Your Team

Many managers head in the opposite direction when they encounter conflict in the workplace. That's a mistake, as there are both healthy and unhealthy …

Management

The single most powerful question to ask in an interview — and how top candidates answer

<b>· 'Practical hiring' is the technique of testing candidates' self-awareness.</b><p><b>· After they present a product or presentation to you, ask them, "What would you do differently?"</b><p><b>· Candidates that can answer immediately and thoughtfully are the ones that can identify more efficient processes and strive</b> …

9 ways to ruin your relationship for good

• <b>It's normal for relationships to have some degree of conflict</b>• <b><br>But psychological research has found behaviors that weaken a partnership over time</b>• <b><br>Below, find nine of the most common — and what to do instead</b><p>Every romantic relationship goes through ups and downs. Even if you just had a massive fight …

5 Ways to Make Yourself Look Polished to Everyone Around You

No amount of knowledge or dedication can help you succeed if you don't address this<p>The world is full of dreamers. Look around you and you'll find there are plenty of people who spend a lot of time and money reading business and branding books or signing up to attend intensive retreats and …

Self-improvement

People often stay in abusive relationships because of something called 'trauma bonding' — here are the signs it's happening to you

• <b>People often don't even realise they are in an abusive relationship.</b>• <b><br>It can be hard for others to understand why someone stays with an abusive partner.</b>• <b><br>It's often because of something called "trauma bonding," where you become addicted to the hormonal rollercoaster an abuser sends you on.</b><p>Those who …

7 ways to make difficult conversations easy

Someone is screaming in your face at the top of their lungs. Or ranting angrily and you can’t get a word in edgewise. Or maybe they’re sobbing so …

Emotions

The Right Way to Respond to Negative Feedback (It'll Save Your Career)

Don't deny, defend, or dwell on negative feedback -- unless you never want to improve your skills or advance your career.<p>When it comes to giving and receiving negative feedback, most of us would rather have a root canal. In fact, many of us are so uncomfortable with negative feedback that we'd …

Employment

3 Things Leaders With Impressive Communication Skills Always Do

As a leader, your communication skills have the potential to leave a lasting impact on others--make sure that impact is a positive one.<p>Communication is an essential life skill for anyone and everyone. It's one of the earliest survival skills we learn as growing children. (How else would we have …

Leadership

Why Every Great Presentation Begins With the End

Preparing the perfect speech starts with considering the journey. Make each talk a call to adventure that your audience can't wait to take.<p>A confident speaker steps onto the stage and gives the most persuasive speech you've ever heard. Credible, informative and engaging--the crowd loves it.<p>Where …

Self-improvement

Having Work Friends Can Be Tricky, but It’s Worth It

<b></b>How often have you had the following conversation at work?<p><i>How are you?</i><i>Good. You?</i><i>Fine.</i><p>It is a script we stick to even if we are dying inside.<p>It’s hard to build real connections with your colleagues if you never get beyond superficial chit-chat. And yet people who have a “best friend at work” are not …

Relationships

An Introduction to Rhetorical Questions

A <i>rhetorical question</i> is a question (such as "How could I be so stupid?") that's asked merely for effect with no answer expected. The answer may be …

William Shakespeare

A marriage therapist says there are 4 good reasons to leave a relationship — and a really bad one

Breaking up is the worst -- not just because it makes you sad and regretful and all that but because deciding to part ways takes so much mental and …

Relationships