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A psychologist who’s studied couples for decades says this is the best way to argue with your partner

Arguments with your partner don't have to be devastating.<p>In fact, couples who follow two basic rules when they argue tend to stay together longer than couples who do not, according to research from University of California, Berkeley psychologist Robert Levenson and University of Washington …

Marriage

How to Communicate Clearly During Organizational Change

A former colleague liked to remind leaders of their impact by telling them, “There are children you’ve never met who know your name.” The point was simple: Their followers were also moms or dads who were going home and talking about their day in front of their children. And you, their leader, had a …

Management

Two Words That Make You Instantly Irresistible According To Dave Kerpen

Shutterstock<p>What are some quick ways you can get people to like you and to trust you?<p>So much about life and relationships is about building trust. We do business with people we trust. We help people we trust. We go out of our way for people we trust. But how do you build trust with someone you’re …

Body Language

5 Empowering Things To Remember After A Breakup, According To An Expert

It’s not much of a secret as to how much a breakup can hurt.<p>Trying to get through a difficult breakup can zap the energy out of even the most …

Relationships

Tell the truth: Most of us lie, but why do we do it?

Imagine you’re given a test with 20 simple math problems. You have five minutes to solve as many as possible — and the better you do, the more you’ll get paid. When time’s up, you’re instructed to drop the paper into a shredder.<p>But it’s not really going to be shredded.<p>Instead, the Duke University …

Psychology

5 ways to manage public speaking anxiety

When you’re facing an important business presentation, do you often feel like you’re at the mercy of your anxiety?<p>As you probably know, fear of public speaking is rooted in human biology. However, that doesn’t mean speech anxiety is an inevitable fact of life that you can’t overcome, and it …

Leadership

The one word that will defuse every row

A relationship coach has revealed the one word that promises to defuse a marital row, and surprisingly it’s not sorry.<p>All couples fight. From arguing …

Marriage

Using this one word will encourage people to give you honest feedback

A few years ago, a CEO told me how she was struggling to get honest feedback from her board.<p>No one seemed willing to be critical or give her pointers on things she could improve. After every board meeting, she would turn to them and ask directly:<p><i>“What feedback does anyone have for me?”</i><p>She’d hear …

Harvard Business Review

Are You A People Manager? Here Are The 2 Skills Your Employees Say You Need To Improve

You’re a people manager — and you believe you’re good at it. But do you really know what your employees think about your management skills?<p>According to a survey by Robert Half Management Resources, communication and diplomacy are the skills workers say their boss needs to improve most.<p><b>Watch on</b> …

Management

3 Ways to Choose Words That Will Grab the Attention of Everyone in the Room

Before you even walk in, clarify the purpose behind your message. Then, you can claim a compelling point of view that engages listeners.<p>Words count. When you speak, people look at the whole package. What you say and how you say it counts: Do you project confidence and relay a compelling message? …

Leadership

How to Make Friends by Asking Questions

We spend much of our waking hours talking. A lot of conversation is about sharing information so we can influence each other and coordinate our …

Relationships

Want to Escape Meeting Hell? Three Rules For Shorter, Better, Higher-Impact Meetings

Meetings can take up a lot of your time. But you can learn how to optimize these moments.<p>Whether we're coming together at work or at home, or on behalf of boards, non-profits or clubs, we can all relate to the drudgery of meeting overload. Oftentimes it's less the meeting that's the problem than …

Management

A data scientist reveals how you can tell if a first date is going well based on language choice

Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, New York Times writer, former Google data scientist, and author of "Everybody Lies" reveals the common language used on successful first dates. Following is a transcript of the video.<p><i>We used to think of data as surveys, very structured answers, right? A checkbox, yes, no,</i> …

Relationships

Love Scientists Have Bad News for Lonely Teens

American adults wring their hands over the sexual and social lives of teenagers, but a new Harvard report argues it would be better to quit lamenting …

Relationships

These are the major signs that you’re the toxic friend in your group

You have a fight with your friend over something you find ridiculous, and you walk away shaking your head, thinking, “What is wrong with her? Why is …

Relationships

What I Learned in Prison About the Most Powerful Public Speaking Skill

Attending a TEDx event in Donovan State Correctional Facility taught me important lessons about the deep desire for human connection .<p>The day I went to prison started like most other days--well, actually, maybe not.<p>Richard J. Donovan Correctional Facility is a men's prison east of San Diego, and …

Public Speaking

The problem with millennials isn’t millennials—it’s how you’re leading them

Lazy. Entitled. Narcissistic.<p>At both the popular and academic level, those three words pretty well sum up <i>the problem</i> with millennials. But why stop there? They’re job-hopping, promotion-expecting, still-living-at-home-with-their-parents, social-media junkies whose only shared passion seems to be …

Leadership

6 Foolproof Methods to Fearless Public Speaking

Learn how to crush the jitters and exude greatness when you speak.<p>I used to be deathly afraid of public speaking.<p>The irony is that I now make my living as a speaker, and even better, I founded a company whose main focus is to train others to deliver profitable presentations.<p>At my college, Florida …

Public Speaking

A relationship expert shares the 4-letter word that can diminish conflict with your partner — and it does not get said enough

Hal Runkel is a family therapist and the author of "Choose Your Own Adulthood." In this video, he shares the one word, it’s a four-letter word, that does not get said enough in marriage. The following is a transcript of the video.<p><i>There is one word, it’s a four-letter word, that does not get said</i> …

Relationships

10 Ways Smart People Stay Calm

You can preempt much of your stress with these vital practices.<p>The ability to manage your emotions and remain calm under pressure has a direct link to your performance. TalentSmart has conducted research with more than a million people, and we’ve found that 90 percent of top performers are skilled …

Emotional Intelligence

How to get people to like you: 7 ways from an FBI behavior expert

Meeting new people can be awkward. What should you say? How can you make a good impression? How do you keep a conversation going?<p>Research shows …

Body Language

Looks aren't the only thing that attract us to people, scientists say

When it comes to finding people attractive, it doesn’t all come down to looks a study has found.<p>The mini review, published in the journals <i>Frontiers</i> …

19 tricks for reading people's body language

Reading other people's body language is tricky business.<p>If someone's crossing his arms, for example, you could assume that he's closed off, when in …

Three Pieces of Advice to Build Confidence for Public Speaking

This curated post is authored by Gary Vaynerchuk, CEO @ Vaynermedia<p>I do a lot of public speaking and there’s no arguing that I’m pretty good at it. I …

Public Speaking

Your Team Is Brainstorming All Wrong

When your team is tasked with generating ideas to solve a problem, suggesting a brainstorming session is a natural reaction. But does that approach actually work?<p>Although the term “brainstorming” is now used as a generic term for having groups develop ideas, it began as the name of a specific …

Creativity

7 Signs You Are In A Happy Relationship, According To Science

"<p>❤️<p>Many relationships go through ups and downs, but only some of them are going to stand the test of time.<p>And because we don’t have a crystal ball to look into our romantic future (as much as we would like one), we’ve called on science for some good old-fashioned evidence that our relationship is …

Relationships

Why You Hate the Sound of Your Voice--and How You Can Change It

Listening to a recording of your voice can be excruciating, but it doesn't have to be.<p>It's always unsettling to hear your own voice.<p>Whether it's higher than you thought it was, more nasally, or simply not at all like it sounds to your own ear, it's easy to find yourself harshly judging the way you …

Public Speaking

9 science-backed ways to appear more attractive

What makes people attractive? And sometimes <i>really, really</i> attractive?<p>Hotness is devilishly hard to generalize. A person's mood, cultural upbringing, and ability to get along with someone, for example, add up to radically different ideas about who's sexy and who's not.<p>That said, researchers <i>have</i> …

Psychology

How to break up with a woman

We all know the story. Boy meets girl. Boy dates girl. Boy realises she's not the one, or he's not the one, or someone else is the one, or no one will ever be the one, or ... whatever the reason, it has to end.<p>But how?<p>Ever keen to grill my friends on their private lives, I got in contact with a …