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Are You a Highly Sensitive Person? 8 Strategies to Help

I attended a family function recently, and as I entered the gathering, I was inundated with sensory information. Here's what I processed in the first minute: There were dozens of people, who I barely knew, eating their lunch and talking; dogs were running around, including my own who is a bit fond …

8 Ways to Stay Young as You Age

What does it mean to be "psychologically young"? It's not about wrinkle creams, plastic surgery, or injections to make you look younger. It's about having a positive mental attitude, staying cognitively and physically active, and having a high-quality life.<p>How long you live and the quality of your …

Why We Should Tell the Truth (Even When It's Risky)

I recently wrote a blog post about the importance of asking our good friends for what we really need. I received a lot of feedback, most of it expressing gratitude for being given permission to need and ask for a certain kind of undistracted attention from good friends. Many people identified with …

Who Wants to Write?

A colleague just told me about a recent session at the American Psychiatric Association's (APA) annual conference that aimed to help psychiatrists reach the rest of us through the written word. A good, if slightly odd idea since psychiatrists ought to be experts at communicating already. Right? …

Writing

Find Health by Rewriting Your Story

Everyone has a story. Everyone has a behind-the-scenes tale about something they have had to overcome, something that has contributed to who that person is. Some stories are more dramatic than others, but we all have that thing -- maybe more than one thing, maybe many things --t hat has helped to …

Questions Make Good Connections

What is the capital of Pennsylvania? It's a good question designed to get a specific answer -- an answer, by the way, that I remember using the mnemonic "Harry's Pennies." But it's not the kind of question that necessarily leads to a good personal connection with others. And yet, questions can be …

A Heart That Is Ready for Anything

When the Buddha was dying, he gave a final message to his beloved attendant Ananda, and to generations to come:<p>"Be a lamp unto yourself, be a refuge to yourself. Take yourself to no external refuge."<p>In his last words, the Buddha was urging us to see this truth: Although you may search the world …

Living in the 'Should's

The "should"s of life are the greatest mental health killers I've come across! Every day, I sit with my clients as they talk about the things they're unhappy about. And the biggest culprit is usually not the thing itself, but how they're falling short of what their family, culture, or society …

Happiness

Learn to Exit Your Emotional Roller Coaster

If you've been dieting -- or trying to get yourself not to eat this and that -- for the past however many years, it's going to be very normal for you to experience extreme mental states around food or exercise, and weight loss. Many of us refer to this experience as the "roller coaster." It's not …

7 Things I Learned From Mom

As Harriet Beecher Stowe said, "Most mothers are instinctive philosophers." My mom has certainly been the source of constant inspiration. Anyone who has heard me speak has heard stories about her. Although she is highly educated and accomplished, her advice is usually quite simple yet powerful if …

The Choice

We all have our challenges. Our children are driving us crazy. Too much going on at work, and not enough time to get it done. Our body sends us daily reminders that life is not what it used to be.<p>Few of us, however, face challenges comparable to Susan Spencer-Wendel's. Susan was a well-respected …

Depression May Raise Women's Stroke Risk

A new study shows just how important mental health is to the health of our bodies.<p>The findings, published in Stroke: Journal of the American Heart Association, shows that having depression may double the risk of stroke for middle-aged women.<p>"When treating women, doctors need to recognize the …

Birth and Death

I had to put my beloved 17-year-old beagle, Lucy, to sleep 10 days ago. I hate that term "put to sleep." The vet came, gave her an injection, and it killed her. She was very old, and she had become very sick in the past few weeks. There was no denying that it was her time.<p>That Saturday, the day …

Pets

The False Prophet

I loved the film <i>Kumare</i>, a story of a false prophet. The movie maker Vikram Gandhi decides to impersonate a fake guru and quickly builds a following.<p>Vikram's point of view is that we tell ourselves the stories we want to believe. The truth is something we are creating, because the world is as we …

Thank You, Angelina Jolie

Thank you, Angelina Jolie! Your confidence and courage is inspiring and will no doubt help thousands of women face the same difficult decisions. Knowledge is power, and understanding your genetic risk of cancer allowed you to take charge of your future and change your destiny. As a gynecologic …

Cancer

You Gotta Face It to Fix It

<i>"Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced." -- James Baldwin</i><p>Many of us like to live in what I call the 51st state: the state of denial. We have all been there, done that. It's what we do as humans to avoid pain, wounds, grief, and any kind of …

Pushing Back for Individuality

I'd like to believe that even though I speak and write publicly about my eating disorder, my advocacy and my personal struggles, when it comes to "real-life" experiences and day-to-day interactions, I am a very private person. This fact is difficult for my personal acquaintances to fathom, but that …