BEING A COACH 2017

By Cornucopia | Tools, information and Insights for coaching

8 Ways to Get a Difficult Conversation Back on Track

Despite our best intentions, conversations can frequently veer into difficult territory, producing frustration, resentment, and wasted time and effort. Take David, one of my coaching clients. Recently appointed to a business school leadership role, he was eager to advance his strategic agenda. …

Harvard Business Review

Emotional Intelligence Has 12 Elements. Which Do You Need to Work On?

Esther is a well-liked manager of a small team. Kind and respectful, she is sensitive to the needs of others. She is a problem solver; she tends to see setbacks as opportunities. She’s always engaged and is a source of calm to her colleagues. Her manager feels lucky to have such an easy direct …

Emotional Intelligence

A psychotherapist shares 6 ways to stop overthinking everything

While everyone over-thinks certain situations once in a while, some people are plagued with a constant barrage of thoughts all the time.<p>Chronic over-thinkers rehash conversations they had yesterday, second-guess every decision they make, and imagine disastrous outcomes all day every day.<p>Thinking …

Mindfulness

The Big Five Personality Traits and What They Mean to Psychologists

At the topmost level, there are two types of people in the world: Those who think personality types can be categorized and those who can't.<p>Among …

Want to Show Great Leadership Skills as a Deadline Approaches? Try These 5 Communication Tips

You'll never miss a deadline again if you communicate with your team like this.<p>Are you a manager? You set deadlines on your important projects or deliverables, which your team members, of course, <i>committed</i> to doing. Then this happens: As the deadline approaches, members of your team go MIA on …

Leadership

Overcome Resistance to Change with Two Conversations

Across industries and sectors, the track record for organizational change is bleak. Research finds that anywhere from 50%–75% of change efforts fail. And for those that do succeed, many don’t achieve the goals of the original vision. Why is change so hard?<p>Usually, figuring out the right answer is …

Management

4 Signs to Immediately Identify Someone With True Emotional Intelligence

Imagine the immense possibilities of working with a team that possesses these traits.<p>In a recent report, top chief human resources officers from global companies were asked what they see as the top 10 job skills required for workers to thrive by the year 2020.<p>One of those critical skills for …

Leadership

7 Signs That You're an Emotionally Intelligent Person

Some people are naturally inclined to be more emotionally intelligence, but it's a skill and awareness that can be developed over time.<p>Emotional intelligence is an underrated quality for entrepreneurs, and a crucial one for employees. Simply put, it’s your ability to recognize and control your …

Emotional Intelligence

8 words to avoid when you want to seem confident, according to an executive coach

Let's get straight and to the point: words matter. A LOT. And they're especially important in a professional context.<p>Word choice can be the difference between getting your opinion brushed aside or having someone take your opinion seriously.<p>If you would like it to be the latter (which you obviously …

Self-improvement

16 things you need to let go of if you want to be successful

When it comes to achieving success, there’s a lot of focus on the things that you need to add to your life, like learning a new skill or finding a mentor. The thing is, there will also be times when you need to let go of certain things in your life if you want to achieve success, like the following …

Self-improvement

A LinkedIn HR exec shares the top 6 things recruiters look for when assessing your 'soft skills'

Move over, SQL. Today's job interviewer has a tough task: assessing prospective new hires not just for technical abilities, but for their soft skills — those personality traits that allow you to interact effectively with other people.<p>Not to be outshined by coveted tech skills, soft skills are …

Employment

8 Conversational Habits of Smart Communicators (It's Not What You Think)

Studies say we retain only about 25 percent of what we hear. Lets change that here and now.<p>The digital era is causing a slow degeneration in our ability to verbally communicate. Specifically, the part of verbal communication that doesn't require words -- active listening.<p>This affects all …

Leadership

9 Powerful Quotes from Osho That Will Blow Your Mind Wide Open

Like many of the readers of this blog, I’m a huge fan of Osho for his pragmatic wisdom about how to live an inspired life full of purpose.<p>Many …

Spirituality

What ‘personal space’ looks like around the world

If you've traveled even a little bit, you’ve surely had the experience of sharing a public space with someone (or many someones) who wants to stand closer to you than you’d allow your partner most of the time. (I often had this experience at the ATMs in Baku, Azerbaijan, where crowding has replaced …

Psychology

26 Ways to Develop Your Personal Brand Online and Off

You’re a sales and marketing machine. You’re constantly selling yourself and your ideas. You’re attaching your name to a specific area of expertise …

Personal Branding

11 Habits of Mentally Strong People

Mental strength is a choice and a discipline, not an innate quality bestowed upon the lucky.<p>We all reach critical points in our lives where our mental strength is tested. It might be a difficult friend or colleague, a dead-end job or a struggling relationship.<p>Whatever the challenge, you have to be …

Self-improvement

5 Myths About Introverts and Extroverts

“I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel.” …

Why Treating Life Like An Experiment Helps You Make Faster Decisions

Startups become successful when they embrace being engines of experimentation. Can people?<p>Oliver Wendell Holmes, the most supreme of supreme court justices, wrote that the Constitution of the United States is “an experiment, as all of life is an experiment.”<p>So if he can have such a respectful, …

U.S. Constitution

10 Psychological Studies That Will Change What You Think You Know About Yourself

Why do we do the things we do? Despite our best attempts to "know thyself," the truth is that we often know astonishingly little about our own minds, and even less about the way others think. As Charles Dickens once put it, “A wonderful fact to reflect upon, that every human creature is constituted …

A Map Of How Emotions Influence Our Lives, Commissioned By The Dalai Lama

When the Dalai Lama teams up with a top psychologist, who teams up a top data viz firm, you get the Atlas of Emotions.<p>The five circles slowly pulsing on my screen are meant to visualize the entire core of human emotion. Fear. Disgust. Anger. Sadness. Enjoyment.<p>Reductive? Yes. But that’s exactly the …

Coaching With Unconditional Positive Regard

Today’s guest post comes courtesy of central NY based strength coach, Justin Kompf. Justin’s written several guest posts for this site and I always …

Happiness

The Psychology of Language: Which Words Matter the Most When We Talk

One of the things I fuss about a lot (especially at Buffer) are words—very simple words, in fact. Should it say “Hi” or “Hey?” Should it be “cheers” …

Language

7 Simple "Calm-Down Phrases" That Can Blow Away Your Worst Troubles

Have you heard the popular urban legend of the <i>space pen</i>?<p>As the story goes, the US space mission needed something reliable to write with while they …

Self-improvement

Eight ways to be more creative and insightful

Brain researcher John Kounios explains the difference between “analytical” and “insightful” thinking, and how a few simple tricks can produce novel …

Creativity

8 small things you do that people use to judge your personality

From the moment two people meet, they're sizing each other up, looking for signs of qualities like honesty, intelligence, and altruism.<p>Whether it's a date or a job interview, the small stuff matters — from the firmness of your handshake to how often you check your phone.<p>We checked out the Quora …

Personality

How to Deal With a Narcissist: 5 Secrets Backed by Research

You must be tired of them. They’re everywhere. Narcissists. And if you think there are more of them than ever, you’re right. Research shows we are …

Personality

Slow Deciders Make Better Strategists

There are many ways to split people into two groups. Young and old. Rich and poor. Us and them. The 98% who can do arithmetic and the 3% who cannot. Those who split people into two groups and those who don’t.<p>Then there’s the people who make good competitive-strategy decisions, and those who …

Harvard Business Review

An executive coach explains how to learn in 2 days what normally takes 6 months

Research has found that having clarity about your goals is essential to having motivation to achieve those goals.<p>If you're not clear on what you're doing, it's hard to be motivated. Which is why seemingly easy tasks, like sending a fax, could end up taking months. There's a lack of clarity on <i>how to</i> …

Motivation