Choosing to call for help has left these families suffering from a kind of survivor's guilt, one for people who were failed by a broken system that gave them nothing but bad options.
Moms called 911 during sons' mental-health crises. Their children were killed.
Insider spoke with five mothers who called the police during their sons' mental-health crises, only for the officers to kill their sons. All of them said that if they were put in the situation again, they would not call 911 for assistance in a mental-health emergency, no matter how desperate they felt.
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Some of the mothers have been propelled to advocate for police reform. Others have left the homes they once shared with their children. Several still struggle with emotional balance.
"I heard two shots. This was all within a half a minute. After that, I fell to my knees. I knew that they had shot my son."
Taun Hall went out of her way to form a relationship with the local police to let them know that her son was a resident of the neighborhood and not a threat.
"Apparently he had a sword with him, and the cops got out and shot him six times and killed him, I think, probably within six seconds," Debbie told Insider.
Jamarion, who had schizophrenia, was shot and killed by police officers in 2016, weeks after his mother called 911 during his mental health crisis.
"We explained to 911 dispatch that we have a child who has schizophrenia and that we wanted to do an involuntary" commitment, Wilsey said.
High-profile incidents
The Black Lives Matter Protests of summer 2020 and, specifically, the stories of Walter Wallace Jr. and Daniel Prude brought attention to how ill-equipped police officers are to deal with mental-health crises
Wallace's mother said that police were aware of her son's mental-health crisis, and that officers had been called to the house three times earlier on the day he was killed.
"I placed a phone call for my brother to get help. Not for my brother to get lynched," Joe Prude said.
What can be done?
Proponents of defunding law enforcement often suggest reallocating funds to mental health professionals.