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Tell me what you say ‘yes’ to, and I’ll tell you who you are

“The difference between successful people and very successful people is that very successful people say no to almost everything.”  —  Warren …

Self-improvement

The 7 Most Popular Sexual Fantasies, According To 4,000 Americans

Even if you're not used to talking about it, having sexual fantasies is a totally normal part of your sexuality. A lot of people might still think …

Chinese hackers stole undersea warfare data from US Navy contractor

Hackers associated with the Chinese government have broken into a US Navy contractor's systems and stolen data about undersea warfare. According to <i>The Washington Post</i>, these include secret plans to create a new anti-ship missile usable on US submarines by 2020.<p>The contractor had been working for …

Want to Be a Great Boss? Do These 7 Things Every Day

If you want your people to be great, then be sure to be a great boss. Here's how.<p>Leadership fads come and go -- entire industries are built on them -- but some fundamental principles of good leadership remain constant no matter what.<p>The fundamental values of good leadership determine just how …

The FBI's Best Negotiator Says This Is the 1 Thing You Need to Influence Anyone

Hostage negotiators don't kid themselves about emotions. You shouldn't either.<p>Chris Voss may be the best negotiator in the world.<p>Voss spent more than two decades in the FBI, during which he worked on more than 150 international hostage cases. Eventually, he was chosen among thousands of agents to …

How to make the right decision: Ask this question

<i>Stuck making a decision?</i><p>You are not alone. Making decisions makes most people afraid. Even leaders fear the consequences of making the wrong call. …

How to Look Like the Smartest Person in Every Meeting

Try these great tips to stand out in your next meeting.<p>My work as an executive leadership coach often has me shadowing the people I'm coaching. And that means sitting in a lot of meetings--as many as seven or eight a day. And I've come to realize that there's always one person who stands out, who …

The Eisenhower matrix: How to decide on what’s important and urgent (without a to-do list)

Dwight Eisenhower was the 34th President of the United States between the years, 1953 to 1961.<p>Before this, Eisenhower was a five-star general in the …

Time Management

Jeff Bezos Knows How to Run a Meeting. Here's How He Does It

When it comes to getting more out of business meetings, Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos may have cracked the code.<p>Bad meetings: We've all experienced them. Whether it's poor planning, too much talking, or lack of preparation, bad meetings waste precious time and money.<p>But Amazon founder and CEO Jeff Bezos …

13 Habits That Raise Well-Adjusted Kids

I keep seeing posts about “entitled kids” making the rounds lately. In fact, you don’t have to look hard before you see things written about how …

Parenting

Your Strategic Plans Probably Aren’t Strategic, or Even Plans

It happens all the time: A group of managers get together at a resort for two days to hammer out a “strategic plan.” Done and dusted, they all head home. But <i>have</i> they produced a plan with a strategy?<p>At the start of my public seminars on strategic planning I ask attendees, who rank from board …

Chomsky: 'The Republican Party Is the Most Dangerous Organization in Human History'

<i>* This interview originally appeared on the blog of the Institute for New Economic Thinking.</i><p><i>To help make sense of where we stand as an economy, as a</i> …

Middle-class

24 Cognitive Biases You Need To Stop Making [Infographic]

Image: iStock<p>Cognitive bias occurs when we make subjective assumptions about people or situations based on our own perception of reality. This can …

15 Family Rules to Keep Your Household Running Smoothly

Our rule is that everyone must knock before opening a closed door. Several times my kids have expressed their appreciation for it after going to a …

Carolyn Hax: One slip-up in 15 years, and the in-laws won’t forgive

By Carolyn Hax<p>Advice columnist<p><i>Hi, Carolyn: After 15 years of working hard to build a good relationship with difficult in-laws — because it was important to my husband — I thought we had gotten to a pretty good place.</i><p><i>After hitting some tough personal times, and after a perceived slight on my part,</i> …

30 Old-School Parenting Rules That Are Still Relevant Today

Tried-and-true childrearing wisdom never goes out of style.<p>We walked to school alone, rode our bikes across town, and knew talking back to our …

How Parents Fighting Affects Children's Mental Health

No matter how healthy a couple’s relationship is, there’s bound to be a few squabbles here and there. And a few occasional disagreements usually …

14 changes to make in your 30s that will set you up for lifelong success

Sam Walton founded Walmart at age 44; Julia Child published her first cookbook at 60. Your best years may be way ahead of you.<p>It'll depend a lot on …

'We’re Gonna Do What International Law Says We Can Do.' Aboard the USS Carl Vinson in the South China Sea

Crowned with a giant disc-shaped radar — the captains all call it their “eye in the sky” — the E-2C Hawkeye early warning aircraft is typically one …

Parkland students are first glimpse of post-millennial wave that will change the country

<b>(CNN) —</b> Don't look now, but here comes the post-millennial generation.<p>Americans are just growing accustomed to the impact of the massive millennial generation as consumers, workers and voters. But now the crusade for gun control led by survivors of the Parkland, Florida, school shooting is …

Demographics

‘Talk dirty to me’: what men and women like to hear in bed

<b>What happens behind closed bedroom doors? A lot of dirty talk, apparently.</b><p>Online dating agency, Saucy Dates, has revealed what men and women prefer …

The Psychology of Expectations

Perhaps you have heard the saying: "Expectations are premeditated resentments." I believe this slogan, which apparently originated in 12-step …

Coffeemakers

Caution: Are You the Victim of a Fixed Mindset? (Here's What You Can Do About It)

By cultivating a growth mindset, you will never fail again. Instead you will begin to learn -- and succeed beyond your wildest imagination.<p>As you grow older, what have you successfully changed about yourself, in order to live a more fulfilling life? Are there new habits, skills, or even character …

How to Make Friends as an Adult — and Why It's Important

Anyone who’s ever made room for a big milestone of adult life–a job, a marriage, a move–has likely shoved a friendship to the side. After all, there …

Psychology

9 bad manager mistakes that make good people quit

It’s pretty incredible how often you hear managers complaining about their best employees leaving, and they really do have something to complain …

The Best Speakers Answer These 3 Questions Before Walking on Stage

Start with the structure to ensure success.<p>Every great TED talk begins with a good outline. If you want your presentation to leave a TED worthy impression, you'll need to start planning long before the day of the speech: how can you make your message memorable? What should be included in the talk? …

An insider explains how rural Christian white America has a dark and terrifying underbelly

As the election of Donald Trump is being sorted out, a common theme keeps cropping up from all sides: “Democrats failed to understand white, …

‘Sea Hunter,’ a drone ship with no crew, just joined the U.S. Navy fleet

A prototype autonomous ship known as the Medium Displacement Unmanned Surface Vehicle (MDUSV) has officially been transferred to the U.S. Navy from …

This 1 Sentence Will Teach You How to Become a Better Leader

Behavioral psychologist Russ Riendeau recalls a conversation he had with Quincy Jones that changed his leadership style.<p>I was struggling with a career decision. I explored every option but couldn't choose one. Either option would have a big impact on my life and my family's life.<p>Every book and …

Steve Jobs's Advice on the Only 4 Times You Should Say No Is Brilliant

With so many things coming our way every day, Steve Jobs calls us back to the importance of focus with one prophetic quote.<p>In the frantic pace of life to do more and be more, we hardly think about the importance of <i>focus.</i><p>That's why, for those free-spirited, creative thinkers and entrepreneurs …