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‘Talk dirty to me’: what men and women like to hear in bed

<b>What happens behind closed bedroom doors? A lot of dirty talk, apparently.</b><p>Online dating agency, Saucy Dates, has revealed what men and women prefer …

Sexuality

The Psychology of Expectations

Perhaps you have heard the saying "Expectations are premeditated resentments." I believe that this slogan, which apparently originated in 12-step …

Psychology

Caution: Are You the Victim of a Fixed Mindset? (Here's What You Can Do About It)

By cultivating a growth mindset, you will never fail again. Instead you will begin to learn -- and succeed beyond your wildest imagination.<p>As you grow older, what have you successfully changed about yourself, in order to live a more fulfilling life? Are there new habits, skills, or even character …

Self-improvement

How to Make Friends as an Adult — and Why It's Important

Anyone who’s ever made room for a big milestone of adult life–a job, a marriage, a move–has likely shoved a friendship to the side. After all, there …

Psychology

9 bad manager mistakes that make good people quit

It’s pretty incredible how often you hear managers complaining about their best employees leaving, and they really do have something to complain …

The Workplace

The Best Speakers Answer These 3 Questions Before Walking on Stage

Start with the structure to ensure success.<p>Every great TED talk begins with a good outline. If you want your presentation to leave a TED worthy impression, you'll need to start planning long before the day of the speech: how can you make your message memorable? What should be included in the talk? …

Public Speaking

An insider explains how rural Christian white America has a dark and terrifying underbelly

As the election of Donald Trump is being sorted out, a common theme keeps cropping up from all sides: “Democrats failed to understand white, …

Society

‘Sea Hunter,’ a drone ship with no crew, just joined the U.S. Navy fleet

A prototype autonomous ship known as the Medium Displacement Unmanned Surface Vehicle (MDUSV) has officially been transferred to the U.S. Navy from …

Military

This 1 Sentence Will Teach You How to Become a Better Leader

Behavioral psychologist Russ Riendeau recalls a conversation he had with Quincy Jones that changed his leadership style.<p>I was struggling with a career decision. I explored every option but couldn't choose one. Either option would have a big impact on my life and my family's life.<p>Every book and …

Quincy Jones

Steve Jobs's Advice on the Only 4 Times You Should Say 'No' Is Brilliant

With so many things coming our way every day, Steve Jobs calls us back to the importance of focus with one prophetic quote.<p>In the frantic pace of life to do more and be more, we hardly think about the importance of <i>focus.</i><p>That's why, for those free-spirited, creative-thinkers and entrepreneurs …

Time Management

How to Discipline Stubborn, “Unpunishable” Children

You might not be able to control their behavior, but you do have control over what they learn.<p>By<p>Jan 17 2018, 4:41 PM<p>Parents of strong-willed children …

15 Words You Need to Eliminate From Your Vocabulary

Newsprint is on life support, emojis are multiplying faster than hungry Gremlins, and 300 million people worldwide strive to make their point in 140 …

A High-School Student Just Won $250,000 For This Incredible Explanation of Relativity

This is genius.<p>The German physicist Albert Einstein needed complex equations to describe his theory of relativity, but 18-year-old Hillary Diane …

11 brutally honest answers from a female sex addict's Reddit AMA

Sex addiction is often (mistakenly) seen as a primarily male condition. This is just one of the many misconceptions about sex addicts. <i>Reddit</i> user Throwawaylemon7's 'Ask Me Anything' thread tackles some of those misconceptions and explains what it's really like to be a married female sex addict.<p>1. …

Relationships

6 things great leaders do differently

Great leadership can be a difficult thing to pin down and understand. You know a great leader when you’re working for one, but even they can have a …

How Do You Know Someone Has the Leadership Skills of the Future? Look for These 5 Signs

At the end of the year, success comes down to what you've done for your team members.<p>As you think ahead to improving your leadership skills in 2018 and beyond, the best traits I have found which will profoundly impact individuals and teams may not be futuristic at all. But -- and you can take this …

4 Simple Secrets That Will Improve Your Leadership Today

Leadership isn't hard, people make it more difficult than it needs to be.<p>One of the biggest myths about leadership, that I hate, is leadership is difficult. Now I don't disagree that some people make leadership hard, or find it hard to lead, but that's not the same as leadership being …

In Just 2 Words, Sheryl Sandberg Said 1 Thing Separates Those Who Achieve From Those Who Only Dream

How you work matters, but what you work on matters a lot more.<p>Want to achieve more? Take a page from Sheryl Sandberg, and start ruthlessly prioritizing.<p>Here's why.<p>Many people get things done. They consistently check items off their to-do lists. They're extremely busy -- but are they accomplishing …

We’ve tried sticker charts, a bigger bed, coddling. Nothing solves our toddler’s sleep troubles.

<i>Q: My newly minted 3-year-old won’t sleep in his bed. We have tried everything. He has also started not wanting to be alone in a room if he’s playing. This seems like separation anxiety, and I’m not sure whether it’s a phase or something we should be working on with him so it doesn’t get worse.</i> …

Parenting

Work Smarter Not Harder: 17 Great Tips

In Dan Pink’s Free Agent Nation: The Future of Working for Yourself he closes the book with a long, excellent list of “Work Smarter Not Harder” type …

Parenting in Finland looks nothing like raising kids in the US. Here’s why the Finnish way is better.

IN THE UNITED STATES, I never met a second grader like Carla. Every morning at my Finnish public school, she spends just three hours in the …

Why Mentally Strong Parents Let Their Kids Fight Their Own Battles

Sheltering your children might do them more harm than good.<p><i>The following is an excerpt from the book 13 THINGS MENTALLY STRONG PARENTS DON’T DO: Raising Self-Assured Children and Training Their Brains for a Life of Happiness, Meaning, and Success by Amy Morin. Copyright © 2017 by Amy Morin. On sale</i> …

Self-help

Stranger Shares Dad's Perfect Response After His Son Made a Huge Mess at Target

Parenting has a way of challenging the most patient among us. It’s not just the singular moments, but rather the accumulation of daily stresses and …

Here’s what to do if you don’t really like your partner’s parents

<b>When it comes to the relationship lottery, consider yourself a six-ball winner if you like your partner’s parents.</b><p>Not only is it rare, disliking them …

Trump is ushering in a dark new conservatism

If Republicans do not wish to repeat the mistakes of the German conservatives of the 1930s, they had better find their courage – and their conservatism – fast<p>Timothy Snyder is the Levin professor of history at Yale University<p>In his committed mendacity, his nostalgia for the 1930s, and his …

Parenting

A Plan For Raising Brilliant Kids, According To Science

<i>Since NPR Ed first published this piece last year, it has become one of our most popular posts of all time. And since then, there has been a little anecdotal proof of concept for these parenting theories:</i><p><i>Kathy Pasek, one of the authors interviewed, has a son named Benj Pasek. He is a composer who,</i> …

Benj Pasek

Teaching your kids not to “see” race is a terrible idea, studies have found

For parents of black children in the US, where bigotry continues to take people’s lives and freedom, talking about race is often not optional. But acknowledging and naming race in conversations with children is something all parents must do, experts say—early and often.<p>Nevertheless, many parents, …

Critical Thinking

How parents can help introverts thrive (without trying to turn them into extroverts)

In sixth grade, Marsha Pinto’s teacher wanted her to talk more loudly and more often, repeatedly telling Pinto that she would never succeed if she didn’t participate in class discussions and group work. The teacher may have had good intentions, but she called on Pinto daily, and when Pinto was …

Personality

10 habits of super likable leaders

If you want to be a leader whom people follow with absolute conviction, you have to be a likable leader. Tyrants and curmudgeons with brilliant …