Love and the Human Bean

By Christi Krug | Exploring relationships of the human variety. Love of the self, love of the other.

Connection Roadmap: The 3 Levels of Conversation

INTRODUCTIONWhether experiencing connections full of love and joy, or navigating challenging interactions, if you’re like me, you’ve found relating …

Mind

The Foundation of Love: Releasing Judgments and Expectations

<b>“Love is saying, ‘I feel differently’ instead of ‘you’re wrong.'” ~Unknown</b><p>We seek it, want it, need it, yet it eludes so many of us: genuine, …

Marriage

40 Dating Mistakes I’ll Never Make Again

As many of you know, I am back on the market after an enlightening six-month sabbatical. You will be happy to know that I actually survived a date …

Why do you want to be in a relationship?

… asked my friend after I confided in him that although I feel satisfied with my life at the moment, it’s not fulfilling because I don’t have a …

Relationships

INTP - Chapter 6: How to Date (and Interpret) an INTP

Chapter 6: How to Date (and Interpret) an INTP<p>(WHAT'S NEW: 10/23/15--I've been away for a good bit grappling with new challenges and the next stage …

8 signs you're in a strong relationship

Here's the thing about relationships.<p>Sometimes they're candlelit date nights, and walks through grassy meadows, and feeding each other cake at your …

Marriage

5 Relationship Red Flags You Need to Watch Out For

Source: bbernard/Shutterstock<p>It would be great if relationships came with warning labels, so you could avoid problems with partners who are not good …

Psychology

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

IT’S one of the things we are most afraid might happen to us. We go to great lengths to avoid it. And yet we do it all the same: We marry the wrong person.<p>Partly, it’s because we have a bewildering array of problems that emerge when we try to get close to others. We seem normal only to those who …

Relationships

If Your Relationship Is Failing, Here’s Why. ~ Dr. Margaret Paul

If there was <i>one</i> thing you could do to heal your relationships, would you do it?<p>I’m the kind of person who loves to understand the deeper reasons …

Relationship Crisis: How Distance Can Bring You Closer

<b>“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to go forward.” ~C.S. Lewis</b><p>When …

Relationships

Vipassana Romance, and Divorce - Modern Love - The New York Times

At that point in my life I had never attempted a full day of meditation. I was chain-smoking my way through a series of boyfriends because I had no idea how to be alone. I hated the cold spot in the bed and the empty hangers that rattled in the closet. Which is why I started meditating. I thought …

20 Traits of Emotional Abusers

One thing that we at SwanWaters.com have learned is that while survivors may be thousands of miles apart, the strategies used by their emotional …

Relationships

A List of Family Roles From Family Systems Therapy – How To Cope With Illness

Family Roles From<br>Family Systems Therapy -<br>Coping With Chronic Illness<p>On this page I discuss family roles which you may take on when young.<p>These roles …

7 Practices for Greater Intimacy and Connection this Valentine’s Day

Historically a holiday for Christian martyrdom, Valentine’s Day has exploded into a worldwide celebration of romantic love. On February 14, the world …

10 Things I’ve Learned About Gaslighting As An Abuse Tactic

<b>Gaslighting is the attempt of one person to overwrite another person’s reality.</b><br>There’s a good chance that you now know more about gaslighting than …

Relationships

Why you should not try to be the perfect lover

A philosopher makes the case for a less than perfect union.Philosopher Yann Dall’Aglio (TED Talk: Love — you’re doing it wrong) believes that the …

Relationships

Wild Geese & Abandon: What We Need is Here

Horseback on Sunday morning,<br>harvest over, we taste persimmon<br>and wild grape, sharp sweet<br>of summer's end. In time's maze<br>over fall fields, we name …

I want a divorce, but I don't know how to tell my wife

<b>The question</b><p>I am a coward whose main kryptonite is a woman’s tears, especially my wife’s. I want a divorce. How would you suggest I approach her? I have heard advice from people to just run away or to leave a note, but after being married to her for five years, I think that she deserves more than …

6 Negative Thoughts That Are Normal In A LTR, Because It's Not All Roses & Butterflies

True love is beautiful. And ugly. For every moment of magic, there will most likely be two moments of anger, hurt, frustration, and boredom. That …

Shining Light on Relationship Cutoff

<i>Several bloggers stirred up controversy by distorting the facts of this essay, read my full response</i> <b>Shining Light on Internet Rage</b><b>.</b><p>Cutting off exes …

During my travels, one of the most frequently asked question is “What is it like to be in relationship with an enlightened being?” Why this question? …

One-Sided Love Relationship

7 Ways To Spot A Serial Monogamist On A First Date

Do you know the signs of a serial monogamist? I'm not talking about the kind of person who just prefers being in relationships to single. If you're …

Love/Hate Relationships - Eckhart Tolle

Unless and until you access the consciousness frequency of <i>Presence (God within)</i>, all relationships, and particularly intimate relationships, are …

Special Relationships

<b>Special Relationships</b><p><i>"Love is not learned. Its meaning lies within itself. And learning ends when you have recognized all it is not. That is the</i> …

Spirituality