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Welcome to Sexual Resolution, a biweekly column by sex therapist Vanessa Marin that answers all your most confidential questions to help you achieve the healthy, safe, and joyful sex life that you deserve.

Ask a Sex Therapist: Why Does Vaginal Sex Feel So Unsatisfying to Me?
Allure - Vanessa Marin
In this edition of Sexual Resolution, our resident sex therapist Vanessa Marin answers a reader's question about how to increase sensitivity during intercourse. Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated.
Oct 1, 2018
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17 Sex Terms You Were Too Embarrassed to Ask About, Defined
Allure - Sophie Saint Thomas
If you've ever wondered what "felching" means, our guide to definitions of these lesser-known sex terms has you covered. Especially with the rise of social media, new terms are coined all the time, including
Sep 24, 2018
Uncircumcised Penises Are Totally Normal, and It's Not OK To Shame a Partner Who's Uncut
Allure - Vanessa Marin
In this edition of Sexual Resolution, our resident sex therapist Vanessa Marin answers a reader's question about becoming more familiar with her partner's uncircumcised penis. However, it’s a great thing
Sep 15, 2018
Ask a Sex Therapist: How Do I Stop Feeling Insecure About My Genitals?
Allure - Vanessa Marin
Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated. Welcome to Sexual Resolution, a biweekly column by sex therapist Vanessa Marin that answers all your most confidential questions to help you achieve healthy,
Aug 31, 2018
How to Take Your Best Nude Selfie Ever
Allure - Kate Sullivan
You've probably taken a nude selfie or two in your life, but did you love it? Like, really love it? Chances are that in the past, you may have taken at least 20 or so naked selfies before finding a photo
Aug 24, 2018
Everything You've Wanted to Know About Foot Fetishes, But Were Afraid to Ask
Allure - Sophie Saint Thomas
Professional dominatrixes and fetishists open up about foot worship, their favorite shoes, and more. If you find yourself dating someone with a foot fetish, you can likely expect many foot massages in
Aug 24, 2018
Ask a Sex Therapist: What Should I Do if My Partner Is Kinkier Than I Am?
Allure - Vanessa Marin
Plus, tips for asking a partner to be more creative about initiating sex. If things still don’t change, have a more direct conversation with her about how the two of you can navigate sex in your relationship.
Aug 16, 2018
Ask a Sex Therapist: My Boyfriend's Love of Porn Makes Me Feel Insecure — What Should I Do?
Allure - Vanessa Marin
In this edition of Sexual Resolution, sex therapist Vanessa Marin answers readers' questions about porn interfering with sex and ever-present roommates. Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated.
Aug 10, 2018
Ask a Sex Therapist: Help, I Can't Tell If I Just Had My First Orgasm or Not
Allure - Vanessa Marin
In this edition of Sexual Resolution, sex therapist Vanessa Marin answers readers' questions on first orgasms and communicating with your partner about sexual needs. Sex should be fun, but it can also
Jul 16, 2018
Ask a Sex Therapist: How Do I Ask My Partner for Oral Sex?
Allure - Vanessa Marin
In this edition of Sexual Resolution, sex therapist Vanessa Marin answers readers' questions on oral sex and vibrators. Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated. Welcome to Sexual Resolution,
Jul 2, 2018
How to Initiate Sex With Your Partner Without Feeling Awkward
Allure - Vanessa Marin
In this edition of Sexual Resolution, our resident sex therapist Vanessa Marin answers a shy reader's question about being more assertive in the bedroom. Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated.
Jul 2, 2018
Ask a Sex Therapist: How Do I Prioritize Sex in My Long-Term Relationship?
Allure - Vanessa Marin
Whether you want to have more or better sex, here's what to say. This might mean actually making sex dates the same way you'd add a work meeting or catch-up drinks to your calendar. If you're worried sex
Jul 2, 2018
I Fantasize About My Kink During Vanilla Sex — Should I Tell My Boyfriend?
Allure - Vanessa Marin
Welcome to Sexual Resolution, a biweekly column dedicated to solving your trickiest sex questions. Sex should be fun, but it can also be complicated. Allure believes in everyone's right to a healthy, and
Jul 2, 2018