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Every successful relationship is successful for the same exact reasons

• Criticizing your partner’s character (“You’re so stupid” vs “That thing you did was stupid”)<br>• Defensiveness (or basically, blame shifting, “I wouldn’t have done that if you weren’t late all the time”)<br>• Contempt (putting down your partner and making them feel inferior)<br>• Stonewalling (withdrawing from an …

The subtle power of uncomfortable silences

In business and in life, it could help you to get acquainted with the power of the pause.<p>At your next meeting, wait for a pause in conversation and try to measure how long it lasts.<p>Chances are – especially among English speakers – it will be a second or two at most.<p>Anglophones tend to be most …

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Making Friends on the Buddhist Path - Lion's Roar

Because we are fundamentally alone when we meditate, it’s easy to think of Buddhism as a solitary path. That’s a mistake, says Zen teacher Norman …

Could your thoughts make you age faster?

<i>Jenn Liv</i><p>Researchers are finding that your mental patterns could be harming your telomeres — essential parts of the cell’s DNA — and affecting your …

Say your truths and seek them in others

In a lyrical, unexpectedly funny talk about heavy topics such as frayed relationships and the death of a loved one, Elizabeth Lesser describes the …

The Disease of Being Busy

I saw a dear friend a few days ago. I stopped by to ask her how she was doing, how her family was. She looked up, voice lowered, and just whimpered: …

Waking Up Podcast #71 — What is Technology Doing to Us?

<b>Tristan Harris</b> has been called the “closest thing Silicon Valley has to a conscience,” by <i>The Atlantic</i> magazine. He was the Design Ethicist at Google …

Why you think you’re right, even when you’re wrong

<i>Anna Parini</i><p>Are you a soldier or a scout? Your answer to this question, says decision-making expert Julia Galef, could determine how clearly you see …

What is a Secure Attachment? And Why Doesn’t “Attachment Parenting” Get You There?

This Is Your Brain on Nature

Magazine<p>When we get closer to nature—be it untouched wilderness or a backyard tree—we do our overstressed brains a favor.<p><b>When you head out</b> to the desert, David Strayer is the kind of man you want behind the wheel. He never texts or talks on the phone while driving. He doesn’t even approve of eating …

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20 Habits of Highly Successful and Effective Leaders

Effective leadership is the difference between mediocrity and greatness.<p>About six months ago I wrote and article on the 20 Habits of Highly Unsuccessful Leaders which proved to be very popular, over half a million views and shares. Which got me wondering what do people want to know most. What to …

8 Life Choices That Will Make You Instantly Likable and Respected

The ability to earn respect often comes down to the choices you make.<p>Respect is such a lost value in today's culture, especially since the most recent presidential campaign. Its polarizing nature has brought out the worst in humanity.<p>Studies have been telling us that there's immense power in …

The dark psychology of dehumanization, explained

As anti-Muslim rhetoric increases under Trump, more Americans are seeing Muslims as less than human.<p>You can think of human psychology as a series of overlapping mental programs. One program identifies faces as individuals we recognize. Another is working memory, which allows us to make quick …

Why are people so incredibly gullible?

Our brains don’t let piddling little facts get in the way of a good story, allowing lies to infect the mind with surprising ease.<p>If you ever need proof of human gullibility, cast your mind back to the attack of the flesh-eating bananas. In January 2000, a series of chain emails began reporting that …

Critical Thinking

Elon Musk says humans must become cyborgs to stay relevant. Is he right?

Sophisticated artificial intelligence will make ‘house cats’ of humans, claims the entrepreneur, but his grand vision for mind-controlled tech may be a long way off<p>Humans must become cyborgs if they are to stay relevant in a future dominated by artificial intelligence. That was the warning from …

Artificial Intelligence

Cashless in China: Testing out digital wallets

How far can one get without a wallet in Beijing? We put Alipay and WeChat’s digital wallets to the test, from breakfast to cocktails.<p><i>By Joseph</i> …

3 Things Business Owners Can Learn From Uber's Scandal

Uber has, to put it lightly, had a rough couple of weeks. First, hundreds of thousands of people deleted their Uber accounts after the company eliminated surge pricing around JFK airport when taxi drivers went on strike to protest President Trump’s travel ban.<p>Then, the company began facing …

Why Facts Don’t Change Our Minds

New discoveries about the human mind show the limitations of reason.<p>In 1975, researchers at Stanford invited a group of undergraduates to take part in a study about suicide. They were presented with pairs of suicide notes. In each pair, one note had been composed by a random individual, the other …

Daring to be Vulnerable with Brené Brown

Let's say that after reading a few articles about the benefits of yoga, you decide to try it yourself. You buy a mat, find a nearby class, and put on …

We are overdosing on empathy | Gaby Hinsliff

The popular trend insists we self identify with those we might show kindness. But that actually limits our scope for generosity<p>Feelings aren’t everything. Empathy might be making the world a worse place, not a better one. Kindness can, in some senses, be a weakness. As popular arguments go, these …

Paul Nuttall

Why you should date your best friend

When you look at seemingly happy celebrity couples like Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis, or Leslie Mann and Judd Apatow, not only do they appear to be in love, but they also seem to genuinely enjoy hanging out together.<p>How many people feel as though they have attained that type of ideal? And do …

Listening to shame

Shame is an unspoken epidemic, the secret behind many forms of broken behavior. Brené Brown, whose earlier talk on vulnerability became a viral hit, …

The power of vulnerability

Brené Brown studies human connection -- our ability to empathize, belong, love. In a poignant, funny talk, she shares a deep insight from her …

The Four Qualities of Love

The teachings on love given by the Buddha are clear, scientific, and applicable… Love, compassion, joy, and equanimity are the very nature of an …

Supergreen Baked Falafel Bowls (GF + Oil-free)

Oil-free baked falafel bowls! The perfect detox meal after a weekend of eating too much, drinking too much, and generally ignoring any and all …

The Simple Psychological Trick to Political Persuasion

Conservatives are more likely to support issues like immigration and Obamacare if the message is “morally reframed” to suit their values.<p>Ever since Donald Trump handed down his executive order temporarily halting all immigration from seven majority-Muslim nations for three months and barring …