Mark Tavender

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How To Get Better At One Thing In One Month

A formula that’s guaranteed to work.<p><b>“Nobody can stop you from getting better.” — Roseanne Barr</b><p>Sometimes we focus so much on getting great at …

How to Die

As a psychotherapist, Irvin Yalom has helped others grapple with their mortality. Now he is preparing for his own end.<p><i>Updated on September 22, 2017</i><p>One morning in May, the existential psychotherapist Irvin Yalom was recuperating in a sunny room on the first floor of a Palo Alto convalescent …

Literature

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You're Going to Die, Here's How to Deal With It

Aside from birth, the only other thing that is guaranteed to happen to every single person on the planet is death. No exceptions, no way around it. …

Los Angeles

4 Things I Learned About Grief, Loss, and Healing After My Dad's Death

<i>“Give time, time.” —Martha Beck</i><p>My dad died when I was 19, when he was almost 60. He was a writer like me. He was also an addict. It was expected (he …

The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (And No, Working Longer Hours Didn't Make the List) | Inc.com

No matter what you do for a living, all of us have something in common: We all have 24 hours in a day. How you choose to spend your time, or your life, is up to you.<p>We only have one life to live. At the end of your life, what do you want to be remembered for? There are many popular, introspective …

New Jersey

Tony Robbins explains what anyone can do every day, month, and year to be more successful

Performance coach Tony Robbins has seven clients he works with on an individual basis, and each pay him $1 million annually. Tickets to his intensive seminars can run for a few thousand dollars, and participants get jam-packed days of group and personal training.<p>There are some aspects of Robbins' …

Hands Down, These Are the Best Documentaries of All Time

Just as we watch romantic period dramas to feed a nostalgic wonder, feel-good comedies for a much-needed laugh, indie flicks to delight our eyes, and …

Social Justice

50 Ways To Live On Your Own Terms

1. Stop consuming caffeine<p>Although people think they perform better on caffeine, the truth is, they really don’t. Actually, we’ve become so dependent …

Researchers talk of ‘biological annihilation’ as study reveals billions of populations of animals have been lost in recent decades<p>A “biological annihilation” of wildlife in recent decades means a sixth mass extinction in Earth’s history is under way and is more severe than previously feared, …

Biodiversity

10 harmless mind tricks that make people like you

When you're working hard and doing all you can to achieve your goals, anything that can give you an edge is powerful and will streamline your path to …

Self-help

Reflections on Marcus Aurelius' "Meditations" | The Art of Manliness

While Stoicism is an ancient philosophy, it’s experiencing a bit of a resurgence in our modern world. There’s a plethora of new books and articles on …

How to Start Working Out in the Mornings

The last time you pried yourself out of bed at 6 a.m. for that morning workout felt great: you heard birds chirping; coffee tasted <i>especially</i> amazing; …

The most helpful healthy-eating tool: Accurately evaluating how hungry you are

The most helpful healthy-eating tool I know is not about what or what not to eat — it’s about tapping into how hungry or full you feel.<p>Learning (or, I should say, relearning) how to listen and respond to your body’s hunger and satiety cues is an invaluable key to nourishing yourself well and …

5-minute morning routines that can make your whole day better

You don't need to add that much time or energy to your current morning routine to be happy or productive.<p>In fact, plenty of the habits that can help you start your day take <i>five minutes or less</i>.<p>We found a bunch of those habits on the Quora threads, "What can I do in 5 minutes in the morning to make …

The Workout You Need to Do If You Sit All Day

It’s no surprise that sitting all day does some undesirable things to our bodies. Research has linked excessive sitting with an elevated risk for …

'Descent' Is A Witty Manifesto On Modern Manhood

Grayson Perry isn't widely known in America, but in his native England, he's a cultural luminary. After beginning his career as an artist specializing in ceramics in the early '80s, he spun off into other media, appearing regularly on British TV screens as the subject and — or host of — programs …

The 'dogs from the cellar' is a perfect metaphor to explain how your childhood still influences your relationships today

Brach shares a bunch of simple but brilliant insights into the way we handle difficult emotions— and how we can handle them better.<p>But there's one sentence I've kept coming back to because it just makes so much sense:<p>"Because we are responding to an accumulation of past pain, our reactions are out …

Why You Should Get Rid Of 90% Of Your Possessions

When I first meet Fumio Sasaki, who recently wrote a book called <i>Goodbye, Things: The New Japanese Minimalism</i>, he is taking a picture of a neon sign …

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Anaïs Nin on Embracing the Unfamiliar

We’ve already seen that life is about living the questions, that the unknown is what drives science, and that the most beautiful experience we can have is the mysterious. John Keats wrote of this art of remaining in doubt “without any irritable reaching after fact & reason” and famously termed it …

Street artist uses reverse graffiti to transform dirty cars into animal art

Moscow’s filthy cars are getting a brand new look thanks to opportunistic street artist Nikita Golubev. Using reverse graffiti, a method of creating …

24 Things You Need to Let Go to Be Truly Happy | Inc.com

If you want to be happy you have to find the things that make you unhappy.<p>If you want to move forward, there are always things you need to let go of first. It's a process that shouldn't happen just once a year. Taking stock should be an ongoing activity. To make sure you're moving in the direction …

Happiness

How The Best Podcast Of The Year Was Made

S-Town's host and executive producer Brian Reed and executive producer Julie Snyder explain to BuzzFeed News how they assembled the most popular, and talked about, podcast since Serial. Warning: MAJOR SPOILERS.<p><i>S-Town</i> — the podcast also known by the uncensored title <i>Shittown</i> — has captured listeners’ …

These 10 Habits Will Change Your Life for the Better

“We have to be very careful in choosing our pursuits, because our habits make us.”<p>In Hans Christian Andersen’s fable <i>The Red Shoes</i>, a young girl longs …

If you're ever questioning your self-worth, just watch this short video from Alan Watts...

How do you define yourself?<p>If you’re like most people, you probably answer that question by explaining your job, your name, your background….<p>But in …

Rightwing snowflakes are offended by everything from Kermit to holiday greetings and Starbucks cups<p>An Englishman, a Frenchman and an American man walk into a bar and make whatever jokes they want because – have you heard? – political correctness is dead. Donald Trump and Brexit have sent it to its …

Jokes

The equality expert has taken flak for challenging ideals he used to champion<p>A former president of the National Union of Students and chair of the Equality and Human Rights Commission, Trevor Phillips was once a leading member of what might be called the metropolitan liberal elite. He had the ear …

Critical Thinking

The Importance of Staring out the Window

In his consulting room at Berggasse 19, in central Vienna, Sigmund Freud came…<p>Many of us want to start our own businesses. Public space is filled …