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A woman's dog died, and doctors say her heart literally broke

Joanie Simpson woke early one morning with a terrible backache. Her chest started hurting when she turned over.<p>Within 20 minutes, she was at a local emergency room. Soon she was being airlifted to a hospital in Houston, where physicians were preparing to receive a patient exhibiting the classic …

Pets

The art of saying no: How to raise kids to be polite, not pushovers

The roar of a crowd-filled basketball arena blares from the den as my 7-year-old son and a friend crouch over my iPad. They’ve cajoled me into a half-hour of screen time playing NBA 2K, a popular video game. Soon, a frustrated rumble erupts from the sofa. “It’s my turn!”<p>A simple enough scenario. …

Parenting

Doing these two simple things can help you get motivated when you’re feeling stuck

When your “get up and go” has “got up and left,” when there’s no more “pep” left in your step, sometimes the best thing you can do is just stop trying for a while.<p>Moving forward feels great, but movement takes energy. When’s the last time you took a break without feeling guilty? Resting is a …

Motivation

I broke up with my abusive boyfriend. But the pain remained.

<i>I have no bruises.</i><p>That’s what I would tell myself when my therapist described my first romantic relationship as emotionally abusive.<p>I couldn’t say that word “abuse” out loud. I didn’t want to be a victim; I wanted it to be as simple as having made a poor choice in a partner. I didn’t know how to …

Relationships

Trying to raise a teen in a terrorized world

Early this summer I shot an email to a friend telling her that my 18-year-old son, Nathaniel, was about to embark on a three-week trip to Europe to celebrate his high school graduation. I confessed that instead of being excited on his behalf, or even looking forward to three weeks of kid-less …

Parenting
Mental Health

How to manage back-to-school situations when you’re newly divorced

When my kids went back to school last year I nearly flunked my first assignment. Asked to send in a family photo, I panicked. What sort of photo would I send in now that my ex-husband and I were divorced?<p>Family photos aren’t the only aspect of back-to-school season that overwhelms single parents …

Parenting
Diabetes

Raising a teenage wonder, and learning to let her chart her own course

“Don’t say ‘<i>transsexual’</i> anymore, Mom. It’s outdated — it’s too … clinical. Use ‘<i>transgender’</i> instead. Gender is an internal process, you know,” my 15-year-old daughter chastised me in the car on the way home from school. I had been telling her about a show I was watching on television when she …

Parenting

Help your child combat the homesick blues during sleep-away camp

Like that first day of kindergarten, it can be hard to know whom sleep-away camp drop off is most difficult for — us parents, or our quivering offspring, suddenly thrust into independence and all that comes with it. And these days, the disconnection is even more abrupt. Our phones allow us stay in …

Parenting

6 ways good parents contribute to their child’s anxiety

Kids have it hard these days.<p>It doesn’t seem like it when they’re playing on their $500 tech gadgets, but they do. Twenty-first century living is taking its toll, and many kids are finding it hard to cope.<p>The number of children dealing with anxiety has been increasing steadily for decades, with up …

Parenting

Managing your own path: Six tips for women re-entering the workforce

Managing your own path: Six tips for women re-entering the workforce<p>By Keita Young<p>When I graduated from the University of Pennsylvania Law School, I was eager to get started in commercial litigation and employment law. After working many hours for eight years, I surprised myself when, pregnant with …

JPMorgan Chase & Co

The perils of being manly

A few years ago, I found myself in the emergency room. I had hurt my ankle playing basketball, and the pain was unbearable. I remember sitting there, waiting for someone to see me, thinking to myself that it must be broken, or fractured, or something similarly severe.<p>"I'm going touch your ankle in …

Psychology

Researchers have a new theory about how tragedies affect us

After losing a spouse or a job, the conventional wisdom is that most people will find a way to cope. And for the last 15 to 20 years, research has echoed this idea. Psychologists have looked at events as diverse as heart attacks, cancer diagnoses, terrorist attacks, the death of a spouse, military …

Psychology

I told the truth in my sister’s obituary, so that others might choose to live

<i>Editor’s note: We reached out to the author after her revealing</i> <i>obituary for her sister</i> <i>appeared in the Duluth (Minn.) News Tribune.</i><p>The most alone I have ever felt was standing on my front porch on a chilly February evening. My sister had taped a note to the front door that said “Eleni, if you’re the …

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline

Is there a more apt example of trying to ‘do the wrong thing right” than in our schools?

Can there be a more apt example of trying to ‘do the wrong thing right” than in schools? That question is asked and answered in this post by Will Richardson, a parent and a former public school educator for 22 years who is now a full-time writer, speaker, and consultant for schools and districts …

Pedagogy

How well online dating works, according to someone who has been studying it for years

A couple of months ago, I was sitting at a bar minding my own business when the woman next to me did something strange. Surrounded by potential partners, she pulled out her phone, hid it coyly beneath the counter, and opened the online dating app Tinder. On her screen, images of men appeared and …

Relationships

Why did everyone stop asking if I’ve met someone?

I turn 42 in a few months, and I’ve been single for a long time, despite efforts to find a mate. I used to frequently get asked whether I am dating anyone, interested in someone or plan to get married. But it’s been about two years since I was buttonholed by an acquaintance who wants to set me up, …

Relationships

Why men and women might choose to learn different languages

Do men and women prefer to learn different languages?<p>A new survey by the language learning site Babbel has come to surprising conclusions. "Our data shows that men have a bias towards learning German, Portuguese and Russian, whereas women seem to choose Dutch, French, Italian and Spanish," Thomas …

Language Learning

Many women still can’t talk openly about their periods — this app is trying to change that

Despite all the social and professional advancements for women, the monthly period is still treated as a taboo. Because of this persisting social stigma, women will surreptitiously slip a tampon up their sleeve on the way to the bathroom. They’ll talk about having their periods in code. They’ll …

Women's Health

Why do I attract so many married men?

I met him at a food-industry event. I lingered around his booth at the conference after he smiled and complimented my purple eyeglasses. We rolled our eyes at ourselves talking about how hard it is to find time to cook at home when you work full time and live in New York City and then he asked to …

Relationships

What I’ve learned about inclusion from my teen

People with special needs: Should they be included?<p>In particular, I mean my 17-year-old son who recently was selected to be in a two-year conservatory program for students with cognitive and/or developmental disabilities. His audition was in group format with a one-minute solo. He told a brief …

Parenting

I’m a terrible date — but I’m working on it

I am the worst date.<p>I will scrutinize, analyze and dissect you, in order to find any and every flaw, regardless of how insignificant. I guarantee that, by the end of the night, your minor imperfections will have turned into significant deal-breakers for me. If you’re a fantastic catch, well, that’s …

Relationships

No test scores, no transcripts, no problem. This college says video applications are a success.

Goucher College, a small liberal arts school outside Baltimore, has drawn much attention for a radical experiment in admissions: It lets applicants submit a short homemade video to make their pitch. No transcripts needed, nor test scores.<p><i>[Videos replace essays and test scores for some college</i> …

College & University

Sleep-deprived America in five simple charts: The impact of marriage, education and work

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention just published their first national survey of sleep for all 50 states and the District of Columbia. In many respects, it's consistent with our image of ourselves as bleary-eyed insomniacs downing triple espresso shots and melatonin pills as we stare at …

Sleep

10 lazy ways to intellectually stimulate your kids

Everyone says kids are like sponges. Because they’re germy and start to smell really bad unless you wash them well in hot water and soap. Also, because their little minds are growing and expanding at approximately twice the rate of the average American waistline, and that’s saying something. But …

Parenting

Is online dating the same as arranged marriage? Ravi Patel thinks so.

<i>Dating in the modern age:</i> You carefully type up a profile, taking care to sound fun, awesome but also so busy enjoying yourself that you can barely find time to date. You list your wants and needs, post a flattering photo or five (one<p>with a tiger from that time you went on safari), and you hope …

Relationships

‘Promise you’ll never put me in a nursing home’

Whenever Sarah Harris and her husband, Ernie, drove past a nursing home, he would say the same thing: <i>That’s where you’re going to put me. That’s where I’m going to be sent.</i><p>“I would say, ‘No, I don’t think that’s going to happen,’ ” said Harris, of Fairfax, Va.<p>Her husband had been diagnosed with …

Dementia
Relationships