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Why is my son so good when others watch him, but bad when he is with me?

Q: When I am away everyone tells me how good my son was when he was with them. The second I arrive he is like a completely different child, and drives me crazy! Why is he so good with others, but is so bad with me?<p>A: Hah! I wish I had a nickel for every parent who asked me this question. You're not …

Parenting

Yelling at Teenagers May Harm Their Mental Health

As exasperating as parenting teenagers can be, new research is showing that yelling or shouting at them, or threatening them verbally, can have a negative impact on the teens' overall mental health. More from Reuters:<p>"The take home point is that the verbal behaviors matter," Annette Mahoney, who …

Things You Do When You're an Adult

I turned 39 this summer. I have an 11-year-old and an 8-year-old. I drive an SUV, own a house, have been married 13 years and have a graduate degree. It's pretty hard to deny that I'm an adult. I'm constantly surprised, however, by what it takes to make me feel like a grown up.<p>Some of the …

How TV is Messing With Your Tween

Being a tween girl is hard. And according to a new study, the television shows tween girls and boys watch is making life just a little more difficult. The study published in the journal <i>Sex Roles</i> found that programs on common kid channels, such as Disney and Nickelodeon, frequently show girls (all …

The Secret to Happier Parenting

We're running ourselves ragged taking care of our children. But it's better -- for us and our kids -- if we're less hands-on.<p>Although I don't think of myself as a "hyper parent," the kind whose children -- with their daily obligations and social commitments -- have taken over her life, let's visit …

Parenting

19 things to say to your son before he's grown

There are many (many) life lessons that parents should share with their children, like never in a bazillion years text while driving, be kind, floss every day and always send a post-interview thank-you note. But there are some nuggets of knowledge that are exclusively for boys—things to say to your …

City Halls

Stop, Listen and Validate!

It happened early one morning this past summer. In the rush of tying shoes, applying sunscreen and shoving bit of bagels in mouths, my older son said, "I don't want to go to camp." I brushed it off, figuring this was a typical delay tactic... "What do you mean? Camp is fun!" Zip lunch bags, apply …

Parenting

Orphans' Lonely Beginnings Reveal How Parents Shape A Child's Brain

Parents do a lot more than make sure a child has food and shelter, researchers say. They play a critical role in brain development.<p>More than a decade of research on children raised in institutions shows that "neglect is awful for the brain," says Charles Nelson, a professor of pediatrics at Harvard …

13 Mom Truths

<b>1. Your house is not a reflection of your parenting skills.</b> You know what I'm talking about. It's 2:28 in the afternoon and there's a knock on your door and your house isn't perfect. Open the door. Welcome your friend in. Don't apologize for whatever it looks like in your home. Show them you're …

Parenting

Opinion

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Expert Advice for Parenting in the Digital Age

When Fisher Price introduced its iPad Baby Bouncy Seat late last year, many parents (and concerned citizens like myself) wondered, have we gone too far? But not long before companies were dangling iPads above babies' heads, parents were creating twitter handles for their newborns and 10-year-olds …

The Exhausting Truth About Teens and Sleep

Parenting teenagers is no easy feat. You worry about drugs, grades, sports, sex, college acceptance, peer pressure, bullying... there's probably not much you <i>don't</i> worry about.<p>Yet, there's one thing you may not be concerned about that could make an impact on all the things listed above. …

100-Year-Olds Moms Share Insights On What It Means to Be a Mother

This Mother’s Day, why not take some advice from three women who’ve been moms for a very, very long time?<p>In honor of the 100th anniversary of the …

Parenting

Mindful Parenting: The Most Important Thing

<i>"The most important thing is to remember the most important thing."</i> -- Suzuki Roshi<p>We so easily forget what is most important. We're often living our lives on autopilot, going through the motions, without truly knowing why we're doing what we're doing. Mindfulness reminds us of what we deeply care …

Mindfulness

What Your Tween Wants You to Know

As a parent, it’s important to keep an open line of communication, and to make sure your kids feel comfortable coming to you for advice and support. …

The Price I'll Gladly Pay for My Kids' Education

Last week, I went school supply shopping. As I have said many, many times before, I love to shop for school supplies. This year, it cost us $343 for school supplies and uniforms for both of our boys. Most people complain about the cost of the school supplies they have to buy each year, or the …

Stop Telling Kids to 'Do What You're Told!'

Do you want to be told what to do? I haven't found a single person who likes it. Whether you're 4 or 40, it's generally not a favorite. I know you still need your kids to follow directions, I really do. But the old ways of getting kids to do what they're told are rooted in fear and shame: demand, …

Parenting

The 25-Year-Old 'Secret' That New Parents Need to Know

As a part of our Zoobean Experts on Air series, I sat down this week with Jason Boog, author of <i>Born Reading: Raising Bookworms in a Digital Age</i>. When his daughter Olive was born, Jason used his skills as a journalist and his "investigative toolkit" to identify the resources and skills he needed to …

How Teens Become Responsible Adults

In this world of working parents and video games, in some families, teens can go through childhood and adolescence without a real sense of responsibility. They're occupied, but not prepared for a successful life. Having responsibility for things that matter and that contribute to the welfare of …

It's Time to Let Parents Be Parents and Kids Be Kids

There is an article making the rounds on the Internet titled "11-year-old girl goes on vacation alone, horrifying parents around the world." I am not immune to sensationalized article headers, so, like many people I clicked on the link, somewhat spurred on by the photo of a smiling girl wearing a …

Is It Selfish to Only Have One Child?

<i>It's selfish to have only one child.</i> That's the feeling I get after seeing the look on people's faces when I tell them we are still thinking about whether or not we want to have more children. I admit, I may be fully imagining this skeptical reaction and completely inventing the judgment in their …

Teens May Be Taking ADHD Meds In Response To Academic Pressure

While the number of children medicated for attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) continues to rise, a new study shows that the number of kids who actually take such medication varies by season.<p>According to research published this month in the American Sociological Review, middle and high …

5 Ways to Boost Your Teen's Self-Esteem

It hasn't been long since I walked the hallowed halls of high school. And while today's teens exhibit many differences from my generation of awkward adolescents, one thing remains the same: the tiniest phrase or action can send them into a downward spiral of self-doubt. Try as we might — and …

14 Ugly Truths About Modern Parenting We All Have To Deal With

1. There’s more of a “right” and “wrong” way to parent than ever before. And the “right” way to parent is an extremely unrealistic, kid-centered …