Ian J. Garrett

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The Difference Between Lust, Infatuation, And Love

I've been in love a few times, been infatuated even more, and in lust more than both of those combined. And, not surprisingly, when I was infatuated, …

Text Messaging

When Calling the Police Is a Privilege

Getting the authorities involved is more dangerous for black Americans—which is why they do it less.<p>The call was brief, and had the relaxed feel of someone making a reservation at a restaurant.<p>“I have two gentlemen at my cafe who are refusing to make a purchase or leave,” the manager of the …

Justice

100 Ways White People Can Make Life Less Frustrating For People of Color

Just a few suggestions to start with.<p>As someone with very low tolerance for racist bullshit, I’ve managed to surround myself with white people who are cognizant of their privilege and strive to make the world a less terrifying and frustrating place for people of color. This means that I often deal …

Race & Ethnicity

The roots of racism run much deeper than the arrests at Starbucks

Regarding the April 15 news article “Starbucks apologizes after employee calls police on two black men”:<p>In President Trump’s America, the moderately liberal white person has become more and more keen to speak up about injustice. People are more vigilant about their surroundings; everyone is …

Black Culture

Withering Under the White Gaze: The Hart Family Tragedy

[Withering: <i>to shrivel; fade; decay. To lose the freshness of youth, as from age…cause to lose freshness, bloom, vigor…to affect harmfully…to abash,</i> …

Sociology

We can’t ignore race in the tragic story of Devonte Hart and his white adoptive mothers

About US is a new initiative by The Washington Post to cover issues of identity in the United States. Sign up for the newsletter.<p>When Devonte Hart’s emotional photo went viral in 2014, white America embraced it. The image of a black kid in a fedora, giving out “free hugs” to a white officer during …

Black Culture

Tony Robbins's Apology to the #MeToo Movement Is a Brilliant Lesson in Emotional Intelligence

If you ever need to apologize, take a close look at what the legendary life coach did--and didn't--say.<p>Since last summer, when women and men began speaking out en masse about their experiences of sexual abuse and sexual harassment, a lot of prominent, powerful men have issued apologies for the …

Me Too movement

Who’s to Blame for a Generation of Angry White Men?

The media is missing the point in its sympathetic coverage of white male killers, the biggest threat to women, people of color, Muslims, Jews, LGBTQ …

Race & Ethnicity

This Is How Many Reps You Should Be Doing If You're Looking to Get Lean

The key to building lean muscle is strength training. If you've been lifting weights without seeing a transformation to your body composition, you probably aren't lifting the right amount of weight, or doing enough sets, reps, or a combination of the two. POPSUGAR spoke to LA-based celebrity …

Exercise

5 Steps to Quit Yelling at Your Kids—and What to Do Instead

If you erupt when your kids don’t listen or when the play becomes wild, we get it. But here’s how to stop your tirades once and for all—even when you really, really (really) want to yell.<p>A while ago I almost broke a blood vessel in my eye from yelling at my three kids to go to bed. Another time, I …

Parenting

Esther Perel on Why Marriage After Kids Is So Hard (and How to Fix It)

Esther Perel is a world-renowned sex and relationship therapist, but more importantly, she’s a gifted social observer and thinker. In her fearless …

Conservatives Are Losing the Culture War Over Guns

While Republicans have successfully blocked legislative changes, Americans’ attitudes are changing.<p>Who’s winning the post-Parkland debate over guns? It depends where you look.<p>Legislatively, anti-gun control forces remain in control. President Donald Trump, after veering towards the NRA earlier in …

Gun Control

How to Fight the Bad Influence of Your Kid’s Bully Friend

When a child's bad behavior is the result of a friend who's a bad influence, parents need to double down on the empathy.<p>By<p>Feb 22 2018, 2:25 …

The 5 Best Men’s Shoes You Can Wear Comfortably All Day Long for Spring ’18

Last fall, FN broke down the best men’s shoes you can wear for prolonged periods of time without discomfort. And for spring ’18, we’ve given the …

Shoes

10 Steps To A Perfectly Organised Wardrobe

A definitive guide to getting more value and variation from your clothes<p>Minimalism might be the smug Instagram ideal, but the reality for most people …

The best online clothing stores for men

While the image of men having no regard for their style is somewhat outdated, it is true that the act of shopping itself can sometimes be a bit of a chore.<p>This possibly explains why more and more clothes shopping is done online from the comfort of our own homes. As we search for the ideal suits, …

Clothing

How to Discipline Stubborn, ‘Unpunishable’ Children

You might not be able to control their behavior, but you do have control over what they learn.<p>By<p>Jan 17 2018, 4:41 PM<p>Parents of strong-willed children …

Parenting

How to Move a Co-Sleeping Toddler Into Their Own Bed

Transitioning to a toddler bed is a big change for the kid, and frustratingly slow for the parents. Patience is essential.<p>By<p>Jan 12 2018, 2:51 PM<p>The …

Parenting

Best Plant Protein Sources​ | Men’s Health

Most guys looking to gain love a juicy piece of chicken breast, and with good reason. Your body needs protein to build and maintain lean muscle. Plus, the essential macronutrient helps keep you full, regulate your hormones, and build strong bones.<p>Loading up on foods like fish, chicken, turkey, …

55% of white Americans now think white people are being racially discriminated against

In August, the Justice Department decided to investigate instances of bias against whites in university admissions. Since then, campuses have been flyered with "It's okay to be white," and in November, violence erupted at the University of Connecticut during a speech about discrimination against …

Equality

The Whiteness of Trump’s Working-Class Supporters: Gary Younge

Jon WienerA black man travels through White America.The post The Whiteness of Trump’s Working-Class Supporters: Gary Younge appeared first on The …

Health Care

Kids bored? Show them how to freeze bubbles, preserve snowflakes and more

It's only a matter of time until kids get B-O-R-E-D with their winter break. Freezing a few bubbles or preserving snowflakes will cure that. …

College & University

How segregation leads to racist voting by whites

Political scientists use new tools — and draw on psychology — to explain how and why “social geography” shapes attitudes.<p>Although there can be debate about the details, there’s little doubt that attitudes about race and immigration played a central role in the election of Donald Trump. On survey …

Harry and Meghan: Inter-racial couples react to the royal engagement

<b>Prince Harry and Meghan Markle's engagement is shining a light on inter-racial couples in the UK.</b><p>Ms Markle, who is of African-American and white heritage, is set to become the first mixed-race member of the British Royal Family, with her and Prince Harry the first interracial royal couple.<p>But …

Family

If You Want a Deeper Relationship, Ask Your Partner These 8 Questions

Relationships take a lot of effort and time to make things work. Communication with your partner is the best way to maintain your relationship. Ask …

My mother spent her life passing as white. Discovering her secret changed my view of race — and myself.

I’d never seen my mother so afraid.<p>“Promise me,” she pleaded, “you won’t tell anyone until after I die. How will I hold my head up with my …

Look at Baker Mayfield’s face light up when his coach says ‘off the chain’

So much pride!<p>This is like watching your child do something unexpectedly amazing, and then welling up with pride, I’d presume. After the Oklahoma Sooners’ 38-20 win over the TCU Horned Frogs, Sooners head coach Lincoln Riley gave a postgame speech to his players. During it, he began talking about …

College Football

3 Kinds of Marriages

November 13, 2017 by Mark Driscoll<p>“…he is my lover, my friend.” – A wife speaking of her husband in Song of Songs 5:16<p>Looking back on our twenty-five …

How A Feminist Porn Director Gives Her Daughters “The Talk”

What’s the intersection between motherhood and sexuality? Perhaps no one knows better than Erika Lust, an award-winning erotic filmmaker and mother …

A Year After Trump's Win, It's Never Been Clearer That White Supremacy's Last Stand Is Coming To An End

On November 8, 2016, I sat on a panel of TV commentators, trying to comprehend Donald Trump’s surprise election victory as it happened in real time. …

Jeff Flake